One of the most personally rewarding experiences of marriage restoration ministry is witnessing how an individual’s attitude and life are totally transformed when they truly learn to surrender everything to the Lord and become the men and women God always intended them to be as they learn to TRUST AND OBEY. And FAM members have truly been blessed to witness such a transformation over the past year and a half in the life of a young lady (who I will just call “A”) since she became a FAM Fellowship member at the young age of twenty-three.

When A came to the ministry, she was so full of self pity and so caught up in her identity as a victim that some of her posts couldn’t even be posted because her life was such a mess and, according to her, it was always someone’s fault other than her own. She wasn’t willing to do anything to help herself; much less acknowledge that it wasn’t everyone else’s responsibility to do so. She was living with her parents, but seemed to have no appreciation at all for how their lives had been totally turned upside-down just to take her and her young daughter into their home. She ended up dropping out of school, lost her driver’s license and car due to unpaid tickets and repairs she thought someone else should take care of (and resented that they didn’t), and the list could go on and on. Unfortunately, she wasn’t doing ANYTHING to improve her situation and no matter how much I tried, she just couldn’t be motivated to make the changes necessary before the Lord would work in her circumstances and to restore her marriage and family; which is ALWAYS quite frustrating.. But last December, the Lord intervened and provided the perfect opportunity to get through to A, and as we have all been blessed to witness, it sure has paid off because that was just what it took to sart her on the journey from victim to victor in Christ; something every man and woman standing for marriage restoration must do at some point in time.

What an awesome transformation it was when A developed a genuine and sincere attitude of praise and thanksgiving and took responsibility for her life an the lives of her children (she and her estranged hubby managed to get together long enough for her to get pregnant again during their separation). She truly let her husband go, submitted to and respected his wishes to divorce her and focused on her walk and relationship with the Lord and doing something to improve her circumstances. And it’s nothing short of miraculous to see how quickly everything in her life turned around once she changed her attitude and started to do something for herself instead of painting every aspect of her life with the self destructive brush of victim mentality! However, God has definitely blessed and rewarded A’s faithfulness and obedience because she will be moving from her parents’ home into a three bedroom and two bath home of her own later this month with terms that seem TOTALLY IMPOSSIBLE and which “just happens” (no way!) to be right on the bus route and within walking distance to where her llittle girl will go to school. Of course, there’s no doubt that in time, God will provide a car too. And all of this just came about in the past couple of weeks…BUT, as there ALWAYS is with God, there’s more! While her life was really going great for the first time since her separation, her husband’s life was falling apart, which is exactly what God’s Word says will happen to those caught in the devil’s trap of adultery according to Proverbs 5 and Proverbs 7. So read A’s awesome Restored Marriage Testimony below and be blessed and encouraged because what God does for one, He will do for all and He is no respecter of persons! We just need to learn to truly TRUST AND OBEY, because as that old song says, there is NO OTHER WAY TO BE HAPPY IN JESUS!

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A Man Can Plan his Course, But God Determines his Steps by A

Hello FAM Family,

I must say that blessings have been raining down on me at such a rapid pace, that I am in total awe and adoration of the God we serve. And I apologize for not getting this post up sooner, but I wanted to make sure it was good. And with my move quickly approaching on October 1st, I have been a very busy girl trying to get things done and in order.

When I came to Faith And Marriage Ministries, I was so broken; just as were many of us. Not only that; I came here with a lot of anger, frustration and guilt for things that had taken place in my marriage. But I particularly came here with a huge VICTIM mentality, which took me quite sometime to shake.

SNO (spouse name omitted) and I had been having trouble for a while in our marriage; always arguing over totally unnecessary things and nit picking at one another. So in August of 2007, after taking some awful advice and listening to friends (who were not married by the way), I moved out of our apartment. I mistakenly thought, “If SNO loves me he will change and then I’ll go back home.” Was I ever wrong, because he didn’t come around that much, and when he did, all he did was beg me to take him back. But with my self righteous attitude and my VICTIM mentality, all I ever said was “You have to show me that you have changed.” And he always responded with “How can I show you if I’m not with you?” So, due to my own selfishness, I did not “see” that he was changing and in November of 2007, I filed for a divorce. Unfortunately, when I received SNO’s response and saw that he had gotten a lawyer, and wanted joint custody (5050) of our daughter, things got very nasty between us. And it was not until Christmas that I realized, “This is not the life I want; I want to be with my husband.”

So in January of 2008, I called SNO and asked him to meet me, and we talked and decided to work things out. And he told me then that the NCP was just a friend helping him through a hard time. But about a week later, he suddenly changed his mind and said that he was going to be with the NCP. After that, I became sick and after a five day stay in the hospital, decided that I could not do this anymore and gave my life back to the Lord.

Then in February of 2008, with desperate attempts through Google searches to find out how to save my marriage, I found Faith And Marriage Ministries and completed a Member Profile. That’s when Linda called me and without an ounce of sympathy, began to tell me about myself. So it was here that I began to find a release and really learn the biblical principals of standing for marriage restoration. It took me a while, a few mishaps and failed attempts, but after some time, I began to get the hang of it. And reading the testimonies of other members really gave me so much insight into my own circumstances, and I could finally see that there were other people in the world going through the same thing I was going through. And I had the pleasure of witnessing many, many marriages get restored, and with each one, hope would fill my heart. Yet I must confess that I questioned God a few times about when it would be my turn.

However, it wasn’t until the VICTIM SMACK DOWN (Note from Linda: read that in responses below) Linda had to give me in December of 2008 that I really saw the “yuk” in me. But after that, I REALLY let go of SNO, and began to move forward with my life. I think we all have fear inside of us about letting go, and I would often tell Melissa, “It feels weird because it’s almost like I don’t care.” But she would quickly remind me that it’s not that I didn’t care because that’s what it means to truly let go; to go on with my life, trusting that GOD will do whatever it takes to restore my marriage. And that was a huge burden lifted off of me, because I no longer had to wonder, worry and think about what he was doing or what was going to happen.

My husband has repeatedly told me “It is over”…”We will never be together again”…”I’m with someone else”…”Please hurry up and sign the papers so we can be divorced”…. I have heard it all, and people thought I was crazy to believe that SNO would ever change his mind; but I didn’t believe in SNO, I believed in Someone much bigger!

Then early last Tuesday morning, at about 2:30.a.m, SNO called and asked what I was doing! I told him I was sleeping, and he said “Well, what if I needed to come and talk to you?” I told him that was okay; that I would just have to get up. And he said that he was on his way and for me to be awake because he didn’t have a cell phone to call me when he got here.

When he arrived, he was quiet and didn’t really jump right into what he had to say. But he played with our youngest daughter, which was a great sight to see, since he has not been involved in her life since she was born. And she was very receptive to him too, even when he held her. Then he lay beside me on the bed and started off by saying that he does not hate me, but he hates what I did to him. He said that he is only twenty-four and is already having stress ulcers and strokes and that he wishes that we would have just stuck it out. He asked why I gave up on him and I just told him that it was because I was selfish and mean. He said that I was his everything and that he still needed me to be that, and that he thought about me every single day even when he tried his hardest not too. He told me that he was sorry because he has messed everything up now, because the NCP and their daughter together would be a burden on me. I assured him that was not true and that I loved her because she was his daughter. But he responded that he knows me and he knows that it would hurt me because he would have to bring her around. I just told him that everything would be okay. He also said that he tried really hard to get the divorce finalized, but it just would not go through. And I told him that was God and he said “I know.” He also told me that he loved me and that he had missed me so much. I have not heard him say he loved me since January of 2008, so that brought tears to my eyes. He told me that he did not know what to do about the NCP and their daughter, and I just said that he will figure it out and I know that when he does it will be the right thing. He just kept telling me how beautiful I was and he even rubbed my feet! He stayed the night and it was just so amazing to have my family together under one roof again.

FAMM has made what seemed like such a long journey fly by, and now after all of those times I wondered when it would be my turn; Linda, I would love it if you would please move me and my husband, SNO, over to the RESTORED MARRIAGE list! I know that his physical body is not in our home yet, but his heart is and I am confident that God
will complete the good work he has obviously begun! SNO had it all planned out in his heart, but God has surely been and will continue directing his steps (Proverbs 16:9)!

Since I know the true challenge of marriage restoration takes place once our spouses come home, I am asking my FAMM family to pray in agreement with me for SNO’s physical return; and that I will lean not to my own understanding in anything, and in all things trust God. I can’t wait to experience the new marriage God has just for me; but don’t worry, I already know about that trap of “unmet expectations.” Since my meeting with my husband on Tuesday, I have not heard anything from him. But I’ve talked with Melissa and had a conversation with Linda, and they both told me to beware of that trap and that SNO has a lot on his plate right now. Even though I was a bit disappointed that he could come over and say such wonderful things to me and then just “disappear,” I was quickly reminded to take my thoughts captive and make them obedient to Christ. SNO really does have a lot on his plate to deal with right now; a lot more so than I do. And I can’t afford to fall back into my pattern of being a VICTIM and selfish.

I have to say that I am in complete awe of the things that the Lord is doing in my life, and how quickly everything has begun to happen. And I want to say to everyone here who is still waiting for that day to just keep trusting God no matter what because He is faithful to complete the work He starts. Do everything His way and you will indeed get His results and lastly, just LET GO! You will find that life without the presence of your spouse can actually be much more peaceful if you just let go completely and let God do the work that needs to be done.

Thank you so much, everyone, for all of your love and support, and I will keep you updated. Also, my gas and electric are scheduled to be turned on in my new house on September 29th and the new carpet is being put in on September 25th. And I’m just so excited!!!

God just keeps blessing us with words of encouragement and wisdom from those we have come to trust for just that, and today’s messages from Bill and Marsha Burns were no exception, as well as Lorraine Ezell’s Coffee Break devotional this morning, so I want to share them all with everyone below. Be blessed and encouraged…GOD IS MOVING MIGHTILY IN OUR MIDST!!!

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THE TRUMPET by Bill Burns — September 21, 2009:
Songs of deliverance are coming to you, for I, the Lord your God, will pour out of My Spirit that you may be relieved of the burdens that you have carried — those things that have weighed you down; those things that have been troubling to you; those things that you have struggled with. So I say, come to Me you who are heavy laden and I will give you rest. For it must be that in this season that you take rest in the presence of your Maker. You have the ability to come to Me and receive restoration that will come in a position of your alertness, preparedness, and your ability to be fresh and ready to receive, says the Almighty. You are like the eagle who flies in the skies, turn your eyes upward and you will see that you have the ability to be as He is — the ability to see and perceive My purposes, says the Lord. I have called My people to come aside for a moment of rest, a moment of restoration where you can be unburdened now in this season. Come and rest. Allow Me to heal you. Allow Me to invigorate your spirit. Lift up your voice and call to Me and I shall come. For these are indeed the days of My glory and you, My children, are the sons and daughters of glory. So come now and rest, says the Lord.

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SMALL STRAWS IN A SOFT WIND by Marsha Burns — September 21, 2009:
Mount up! Renew your strength as the eagles. What has come to a close or is finishing is not the end but another beginning. Don’t think that life or ministry is over. This is only the end of a phase. You will arise with renewed strength and in greater maturity in the Spirit and accomplish what I have set you to do. I am not finished with you. You have come through a season of change with perseverance and endurance. This has been a time of preparation and a necessary precursor for what is ahead. You have had to make a clean break with the past in order to be available to do what I have set before you now. Come forth in the power of My grace, knowing that you are indeed in the flow of My Spirit and that I am carrying you, says the Lord.
Isaiah 40:31 But those who wait on the LORD Shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings like eagles, They shall run and not be weary, They shall walk and not faint.

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Coffee Break - “At All Times” by Lorraine Ezell:
“Trust in him at all times; ye people, pour out your heart before him: God is a refuge for us. Selah.” Psalm 62:8

“Trust in the Lord at all times”. What does “at all times” mean? Does it mean our trust is to be restricted to the good times only? Does it mean that we should trust the Lord when things are well and the sun is shining? Does “at all times” mean only when we have enough money coming in to pay the bills, when our children are living for the Lord, when there is food on our table, when all our relationships are fine? Does it mean we should trust Him when the economy is in stable condition, when there are no wars, when righteousness is being established within our borders, when the unemployment rate is zero?

Or could it mean that we should trust Him when our lives are falling apart, when the rain is coming, when the darkness of night has settled around us? Could it mean that we should trust the Lord when we see no hope for a brighter tomorrow, when we get one bad report after another like Job, when the earth is shaking beneath our feet and the storm is beating upon our house? Does it mean that we should put our trust in the Lord when sickness strikes our body, when the bank forecloses on our home, when the pink slip comes today and tomorrow we have no job?

Does “at all times” include the times when we see no evidence that the Lord is working on our behalf, when the heavens seem to be shut up, when our prayers feel like they are returning unanswered, when it feels like God has abandoned us? Just what does He mean when He says, “Trust in the Lord at all times”? He means just that- at all times. Good times, bad times, night time, day time, plenty times, lack times, calm times, storm times- if there is a “time” for it, then we are to trust God in it.

Life consists of different “times”. It isn’t made up of all good times or all bad times. But regardless of the times we find ourselves in, we can trust God in them. He is with us, providing for us, meeting our need, protecting us, empowering us, at all times. He was with the disciples in the time of storm. He was with David when his time came to face the giant. He was with the three Hebrews during the time they were in the furnace. He was with Esther when it was time to go before the king. He was with Moses when it was time to lead the people out of Egypt. He was with Joshua when it was time to go into the promised land. And He will be with you in all your times too.

Have a great day. Trust in the Lord at all times- regardless of what time it is.
For further reading:
Proverbs 3:5-6, Psalm 56:3, Isaiah 12:2, Psalm 73:28, Psalm 118:8-9, Psalm 20:7

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Coffee Break is a morning devotional written by Lorraine Ezell, and available online and sent by email free of charge for the asking from About the Master’s Business Ministry, Inc.
So please feel free to call Lorraine at (601) 833-5278 or E-mail her at [email protected]
And you can visit her on the web at MastersBusiness.org.

(Note from Linda: Karen beat me to getting these posted on the private site, and there’s no doubt that everyone standing for marriage restoration who reads, BELIEVES and PRACTICES them will be very blessed and encouraged, so I just had to share them here too!)

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Glenn Jackson’s devotionals for today, September 20th, and tomorrow, September 21st, were absolutely written for all of us, and his words and the scripture references will just leap off of the page when you read them. They speak of God’s power to restore all things the devil has stolen, of taking thoughts captive and speaking pertinent scripture out loud because God is more than able to bring into being THE WORDS WE SPEAK. Glenn reminds us that the ability to restore is done in the supernatural and not in the natural realm, and not to fear our circumstances, and to have faith in God’s absolute power to restore to us what the devil has taken!

(Note from Linda: The following Small Straws message from Marsha Burns is so true and something everyone standing for the miracle of marriage restoration and/or the salvation of a spouse always needs to be reminded of, so be blessed and encouraged! God is moving and we need to GET READY!)

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Spirit of Prophecy Bulletin

SMALL STRAWS IN A SOFT WIND by Marsha Burns — Sept. 18, 2009:

I hear your heart and know your desires. Your prayers are not in vain; they have been heard, and I tell you that I am not a God without power to perform My word. Nothing is impossible for Me, says the Lord. My will is being perfectly executed in your life and in your circumstances as you exercise faith and trust Me. You are My greatly loved and chosen vessels. Rest in the assurance that I am with you always.
Isaiah 59:1 Behold, the LORD’S hand is not shortened, that it cannot save; nor His ear heavy, that it cannot hear.

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You can read and sign up to receive messages from Bill and Marsha Burns and others on the Spirit of Prophecy website.

As long as I live, I’ll never cease to be in total awe of the wondrous and miraculous ways I’ve been blessed to witness the hand of God moving in the lives and marriages of FAM members and their families. Even with that being said, everything we’ve witnessed over the past six weeks or so just defies comprehension and description! In the past five weeks alone, FAM members have been blessed to read the Restored Marriage Testimonies of six of our family members, and they were all what we call “SUDDENLIES!” And in addition to the restoration testimonies posted on the private website, I received email messages and/or phone calls from at least four more members with news of their restored marriages, which were also all SUDDENLIES! And I have no doubt that based on the awesome praises of several other members, we will see even more Restored Marriages by the end of the month! Since it’s always especially exciting when we see the hand of God moving in the lives and restoration of marriages of FAM members who have been standing for many years and who previously had little or no contact with their spouses, we’ve been particularly blessed to witness that in the past six weeks as well! So it’s just amazing to see how quickly God works when we learn to DO things HIS way and to truly TRUST AND OBEY what His Word teaches; because there’s only one outcome when we do and that’s the full manifestation of His Word in our lives and marriages for the glory of Jesus Christ!

In addition to being blessed by the awesome work of restoration we’ve recently witnessed, FAM members were also blessed to participate in our first real “FAMM get together” earlier this month when I went to Ohio for a week long stay as a guest in the home of a FAM member (Karla) with a restored marriage. But the “open house” we had originally planned for the Saturday afternoon before Labor Day, ended up being a “sleep over” with nine FAM members actually staying under the same roof that night! In addition to that, Karla and I were blessed to meet and have lunch with another member with a restored marriage earlier in the week who couldn’t attend over the weekend, along with her twin daughters. And then two of our members who attended, visited another member with a restored marriage on their way home Sunday because she had emailed that morning that she was having a difficult time in her marriage again.

Needless to say, we were all blessed beyond measure to share such wonderful fellowship, and FAMM Board members got to meet each other for the first time because five of our six Directors and Officers were in attendance. And with the exception of meeting Dan earlier in the year (when he and two of the other guys came to visit and we went out for lunch together), our Board members had previously “met” only via conference calls! And we were all particularly blessed that our very gracious and generous host was so willing to share his experience and the “Prodigal Perspective” with all of us as we gathered around his kitchen table both Saturday and Sunday. However, one thing I was not prepared for was the overwhelming emotion that often came over me throughout the weekend. I have stated before that I don’t allow myself to dwell too much on what I see the Lord doing through FAMM because it can be so emotionally overwhelming at times. But that’s just not possible to avoid when it’s so evident, which it definitely was while actually staying in the home of a restored family with three young children and hearing the praises and testimonies of men and women whose lives have been so radically changed by the power and grace of our Lord during one of the most difficult times in their lives. And there’s no doubt that our “family reunion” (as it’s now being called) has created a totally new dimension in the ministry; because there’s just a difference somehow. Perhaps it’s seeing the pictures of our family reunion posted on the private site and finally being able to put faces with the names of people we’ve all come to love; or maybe it’s just the difference caused by the bond made when sharing such sweet fellowship with each other as we were blessed to do. In any case, it’s very exciting to see how the Lord is working in our midst in such great and mighty ways and I just can’t wait to see what He will do next, because I know it will be far beyond our wildest expectations and understanding and that we will all continue to be blessed and encouraged beyond belief just as we have been over the past weeks! So we give ALL praise, honor and glory to Jesus Christ for all He has already done in our midst and for all of the great and mighty things we know He will do in the days, weeks, months and even years to come as we stand in faith and obedience on the power and promise of His Word for the restoration of our marriages and families! GOD IS MOVING, SO BE BLESSED AND ENCOURAGED…AND GET READY!!!

One of the most important challenges when standing for marriage restoration is recognizing and overcoming unforgiveness because it’s like a poison pill to our stand for marriage restoration. In fact, I’d venture to say that most men and women standing for marriage restoration feel pretty sure that we have forgiven our spouses, and often have a very difficult time admitting that it’s still an issue, even after saying or doing something proving otherwise. Yet if we’re still offended, hurt, or experience an emotional reaction to something, we have not forgiven it, according to God’s standards for forgiveness; which we know based on the following verses:

Hebrews 8:12 - For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more.”

Psalm 103:12 - For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his love for those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.

Isaiah 43:25 - “I, even I, am he who blots out your transgressions, for my own sake, and remembers your sins no more.

How amazing and incredible it is to know that the Lord forgives us and remembers our sins no more FOR HIS OWN SAKE! And surely if it is something the Lord does for His own sake, we should understand that it’s for our own sake that we need to forgive others; especially our one flesh covenant mates. And there are many verses making it very clear that God forgives us ONLY AS we forgive others, such as the following passages of scripture:

Luke 11:4 - Forgive us our sins, for we also forgive everyone who sins against us. And lead us not into temptation.”

Matthew 6:14-15 - For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

Luke 6:37 - “Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.

And The parable of The Unmerciful Servant in Matthew 18:21-35 leaves absolutely no doubt about the correlation between how we forgive and how we are forgiven!

Then, in addition to restating that the Lord forgives us only as we forgive others, Mark 11:24-25 gives us another very important reason to guard our hearts against unforgiveness, because it says Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.” So there’s a direct connection between how the Lord responds to our prayers and a lack of forgiveness in our hearts. And the Lord expects us to SEEK forgiveness as well as give it, which we know based on Matthew 5:23-24, because it says “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift.

And what a powerful verse Luke 7:47 is for everyone standing for marriage restoration, because it says Therefore, I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven—for she loved much. But he who has been forgiven little loves little.” And this is not the only place we see love and forgiveness hand in hand, because in describing love, 1 Corinthians 13:5 says It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Ouch…that “keeps no record of wrongs” part is a really tough one; yet that’s exactly what true forgiveness and unconditional love requires!

FAM members are often surprised and even upset when I suggest that they sill harbor unforgiveness toward their spouses because they honestly believe they don’t. Yet that’s hard to deny when considering some of the things they have said, because when we harbor unforgiveness in our hearts, even on a subconscious level, it WILL come out of our mouths sooner or later, and more than likely at the worst possible moment! From our hearts our mouths speak, so when we have unforgiveness in our hearts, it WILL eventually come out, no matter how hard we try to hide it because as Luke 6:45 declares, The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks. Fortunately, as Psalm 139 reveals, God knows all there is to know about us an He will be ever so faithful to hear and answer when we pray psalm 139:23-24, which says Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. And as I’ve personally experienced and witnessed in the lives of so many others, God seems to be particularly faithful to answer this prayer, and He seems to do so very quickly and thoroughly, which tends to be a very painful process. But it’s often a very necessary process for the healing that needs to take place in US so we can truly forgive our spouses and thus create the atmosphere of grace that’s required for redemption, which is important because without redemption, restoration is not possible. So I hope and pray that everyone standing for marriage restoration will be able to recognize and overcome unforgiveness because when we do, we are the ones who are truly blessed and encouraged!

(Note from Linda: Virginia shared the following post on the private site and since it goes along with so many of the recent conversations I’ve have with other FAM members over the past week and something the Lord has been showing me in my own love walk, I appreciate her permission to share it here as well. The Lord has been showing me that HIS kind of love (UNCONDITIONAL AND UNFAILING) is not about getting our own needs met, and that the most fulfilling and rewarding love GIVES to meet the needs of those we love. And since God had also used the way parents love their children to help me better understand that, I was really amazed when I first read how He had also been speaking to Virginia about the same thing. But God first put that on my heart just before Christmas last year and I actually wrote about it on Christmas Day in a Seeds Of Faith post, Love Gives! And since giving love definitely requires forgiveness and that’s also been the topic of many conversations in the past few days, I’ll be reposting some of the archived Seeds Of Faith posts about forgiveness the rest of this week. So let’s all focus on improving our love walk because our spouses will not “feel” loved until we learn to love according to THEIR needs instead of our own. And when our love is rooted in getting our self centered needs and desires met, it isn’t UNCONDITIONAL, and it can’t be unfailing. Yet the Bible teaches us that UNFAILING love is what every man/woman desires (Proverbs 19:22! And when we learn to demonstrate unconditional love and give to meet the needs of our mates, WE are the ones who will be blessed and encouraged when that love is returned!)

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Hello My FAMM Family!

I want to share something that has been on my heart and mind, which I pray will bless someone because you need to hear it; whether for the first time or for the hundredth time.

What is forgiveness? Webster’s dictionary defines forgiveness as “an act of excusing a mistake or offense.” Even though most of us will say that we forgive someone when they tell us they are sorry, do we truly understand what that means? Unfortunately, we are rarely actually capable of really grasping the unrestricted measure of what is being asked for and granted. We might mean it at the moment, but more times than not, we keep a small part of our pain, disappointment, anger and unforgiveness hidden. And the next time that offense occurs again, or something similar, we remember it because we have kept a record of the wrong. We even keep a tally and hold onto a grudge and use it as a weapon in the next argument. But that is not what FORGIVENESS is. And that is not what LOVE does.

LOVE is giving with out the expectation of receiving; which is such a simple concept and something parents do very willingly with their children. And more times than not, it’s done without a word of complaint. Parents of a newborn know that their child depends completely on them; because they depend on them for food, shelter and their daily care in general. And what do parents get in return? Absolutely nothing, because the baby is unable to express Love in return for the love demonstrated to them. All the baby is able to do is cry, go potty, and sleep, and there is no real interaction from the baby that expresses love for their parent. The newborn has no concept of what communication to the parent is; much less the capacity to express it, other than to cry, or whimper, which are just natural inborn behaviors. But as parents, we give unconditional LOVE. We give and give…and give and give again; never expecting or demanding anything in return. We repeatedly forgive our babies for messy diapers and when they toss up on our new shirt. Why?…because that’s UNCONDITIONAL love and UNCONDITIONAL forgiveness. So we ARE capable of giving unconditional love and unconditional forgiveness. As parents, we don’t demand that the baby repents for the mistake, or makes an apology, or even acknowledges that an offense took place. We don’t ask for that or even expect it. Instead, we give the baby what is commanded of us by God; unconditional love and unconditional forgiveness.

WOW! What a concept. Every one of us is capable of that, and every one of us is given the desire and ability to achieve it. Yet, we just refuse to do it when it comes to our spouses. But as Christians, NO limits should be placed on our love and forgiveness; ABSOLUTELY NONE. Do we have a limit of how many times we will forgive a baby for spitting up on our clean shirt? How about crying in the middle of the night due to hunger?)

Luke 17:4 - If he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times comes back to you and says, ‘I repent,’ forgive him.”

But what about when someone does something to us and isn’t aware or doesn’t seem to care that it hurt us? And what if they don’t ask or say they are sorry or even acknowledge the wrong? In fact, they might even blame us instead of acknowledging their own responsibility for it. Yes, forgiveness is often very hard to do. But it is still in our POWER to forgive, and it is something we’re capable of doing and God even commands us to do it.

Matthew 5:44-45 (NKJV) - But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust.

I sat and thought about this a long time, along with all of the things we hear the world (our family and friends) say about getting on with our lives and how we shouldn’t put up with this or that because we “deserve” better and we can find someone “new.” Unfortunately, I began to believe the things I was hearing, and I started to doubt my stand. I questioned every detail, but there was this small quiet voice that kept saying “WAIT!! Listen!! That is not TRUE!!” So I waited and waited; and I waited some more. I also got very still and I listened. And I heard “How many times am I allowed to sin? How many times am I allowed to offend? How many times am I allowed to hurt the LORD? How many times am I allowed to make the same mistake? How many times am I allowed to fall before the LORD throws up his hands and says forget it?! I give up on you. How many times…five times…nine times…twenty times…one hundred times?” How many times!! My goodness! When I heard that, I cried. I cried to the Lord, and asked for forgiveness for doubting that HE would not give me the ability and strength to do what HE ask me to do.
Again, I sat there… and really began to look at things in my life. I kept saying to myself, “I want to show love, and I want to show forgiveness. I want to have a soft heart. I want to be the good wife, mother, friend and person GOD has created me to be.” And I kept asking God why I had to forgive when I felt so wronged and so hurt, and then I remembered something. I remembered Matthew 6:14-16, which says For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

So I began thinking that I want to get rid of this grudge that has been following me around. I want to be able to look at someone and say “I love you…I forgive you” and mean it like the LORD ask and commands me to. I knew all of the details, and I knew I had all of the tools. But I still felt that I did not have enough in me to accomplish that because it seemed so enormous, so overwhelming and TOO difficult! I had too much pain, too much anger and too many everythings to accomplish such a mountainous feat. So I felt defeated before even beginning. And then I remembered Philippians 4:13 (NKJV), which declares that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

WOW! Everything I do is not done alone. Every time I get hurt, or feel crushed or that things are unbearable, I can rely on strength from Christ to get through it. And I know He will never leave me comfortless. He is always with me, so how could I question His presence or power in my life and my ability to give forgiveness, or that He would not enable me to give complete and UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. But I can’t say that I have not stumbled or fallen, or that I will never make a mistake. But the difference for me and hopefully for others, is the knowledge that we will be lifted up. We can reach out and grasp the hand of the Lord, dust ourselves off and start all over again because there is NO LIMIT TO GOD’S FORGIVENESS and there is NO LIMIT TO HIS LOVE. PRAISE GOD!!

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NLT) - Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

That last verse is a great source of encouragement, and a reminder of what is expected of me, and also what I can expect from My Lord in my life. So I pray that I will continue to show Love and Forgiveness as it is always given to me. This was a very difficult concept for me to apply to my spouse, but once I did, the amount of peace I experienced was great. So I pray that everyone standing for marriage restoration will remember that our Heavenly Father will always give us strength when we need it and ask Him into all areas of our lives.

Love in Christ,
Virginia

There’s SO much in the following word of one of our FAM member’s testimony, which she recently posted on the private website, that I asked permission to share it here because I know many could and should learn so much from it to use to keep the devil from stealing, killing and destroying once their marriages are restored, or even on the way to being restored; much of which speaks for itself. And I thank her for sharing in such a frank and honest way how she, by her own hands, tore down her own house and failed to put into practice all she had learned here to work together with God to bring her husband back home in the first place. And I love the analogies she drew in her situation with her Sunday School lesson too; because there’s just no doubt about it…GOD’S WAYS ARE NOT OUR WAYS, BUT HIS WAYS ALWAYS WORK (Isaiah 55:8-11 and Luke 6:46-49)!!!

But the one thing I think she missed, which I want to point out is just HOW GOD’S WAY WORKED! I don’t for one minute think jumping up and down and making her car shake is what dislodged dirt in the gas filter and enabled her to drive the rest of the way home. No way! I think that was a SUPERNATURAL ACT OF GOD BECAUSE she SUBMITTED TO HER HUSBAND IN EVERYTHING AS UNTO THE LORD (Ephesians 5:22-24 and 1 Peter 3:1-6)! Just like Sarah submitted when Abraham asked her to hide the fact that they were married to save his own hide and for his own enrichment, and allowed herself to be taken into the King’s and pharaoh’s harems without giving way to fear because she put her hope in God, and HE SAVED AND VINDICATED HER (Genesis 12 and Genesis 20), MNO (member name omitted) submitted to the instructions from her husband and GOD ACTED SUPERNATURALLY ON her BEHALF!!! Now that’s what being humble before our husbands and under the mighty hand of God is all about (1 Peter 5:5-7)! This is such a powerful example of how God moves so mightily in our lives and circumstances when we just TRUST AND OBEY HIM! So I hope and pray that the truly significant and powerful message in this part of the word of MNO’s testimony will indeed be used in the lives of many to overcome, hurl down and DEFEAT the devil for years to come (Revelation 12:10-11)! When we REALLY get the power and promise of just TRUSTING AND OBEYING GOD, we will indeed be blessed and encouraged beyond belief (Psalm 37:5-6 and Proverbs 3:5-6)!!!

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Greetings Everyone!

I so love to read all of your posts and I have been blessed in so many ways by your testimonies. In one way or another, especially in moments when I really need to trust God and learn to rely totally upon Him, God has used your posts as reminders of what He is doing, what He can do and what He wants to do in my own life. And I give Him thanks that He has this whole world, including our marriages, in His hand.

As many of you know, my husband has been home for a little over four months now. And as I surrendered everything about my restoration and marriage to God, I could see Him really softening SNO’s (spouse name omitted) heart. We had even started going to church together, reading the Bible together from time to time, and even praying together. God had truly blessed me for obeying Him and for cooperating with His plan for our family and marriage.

But since then, our relationship has taken some steps backward because my testimony was not always one of unconditional love and respect for my husband, and he decided to return to his home country within a year, if not sooner. And after some big and dramatic disagreements and my pride getting in the way, he would no longer attend church with us. And since I believed that I could keep better tabs on what my husband was up to and possibly prevent any form of unfaithfulness on his part by staying home, I decided not to go to church unless he went with us, and I even made excuses to stop going to our Bible studies too. And even though we had some good days, the bad still seemed to overshadow the good.

So I was fighting some terrible thoughts, and started feeling frustrated and tired. Even though God was always there when I cried out to Him, I was not in the right place. As we know, frustration is all that we get when we trust in ourselves to do what only God can do on our behalf.” So as I read your praise testimonies, I longed for my own to share, but I felt that God would not and could not bless me, since I was still allowing sin into my life. So when I was feeling so overwhelmed recently, I asked God to forgive me for everything. But I heard the enemy say, “God can’t forgive you this time, you’re too far from Him now.” So I was asking God whether or not He would forgive me, and begging Him to take me back. And HE said…“Though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow.” So I felt so much better, and the next day when the leader of the Bible study called to invite me to the study that night, I asked to see her right away, and she prayed with me, and I confessed, and repented to God about everything; even things from a long time ago. So I went to the Bible study that night and received confirmation that I am to continue standing for the complete restoration of my marriage.

The next day, the girls and I had a beautiful time on the American side of Niagara Falls, but while driving home, our car just stopped working on the busy highway. I know that the enemy would have loved to use that event to get me down, but God used it for His purposes and our good. I began to pray and asked the girls to pray too. I felt hesitant to call SNO to ask for help; partly because of my pride and I wanted to show him that I could handle it myself. But I was also afraid that he would get upset and blame it on me, so I called him since I felt in my heart that he is my husband and who better to call than “your husband” in such situations! So there I was waiting for some “great advice” about what to do, and all he calmly and seriously told me was that it might be some dirt lodged in the gas filter, and that we should jump up and down on the car, so it comes loose. I laughed, and thought “We’ll look so foolish…all of us jumping in the car!” So I prayed again, and asked God to rescue us and to please help us! And I was reminded of the story of Naaman (2 Kings 5:1-15), and I told the girls, that no matter how silly we look, why would we not do whatever it takes to get out of here and go home. So we began to jump and make the car shake something fierce! And then I started the car and proceeded home, thanking and praising God the whole way for ALWAYS taking care of us and for giving us so much to be thankful for. And the blessings I have received from the lesson I learned that day are numerous!

The girls got to see first-hand, that God hears and answers our prayers. And I was reminded to be thankful for my husband, and that he is here to call was a blessing in itself. And, yes, I am most thankful for his “mechanical knowledge!” As I look at it now, I realize how I came so close to missing out on God’s blessing for us all that day. But more than that, I think of how it relates to marriage restoration in that I have always desired to have a marriage built on the Solid Rock, but I have not been 100% willing to do what is necessary to receive it.

Unfortunately, the next day started out rough; to the point of SNO wanting to leave again. So I kept thinking, “I’ve got to let him go in peace.” And that’s when it all hit home about what God had been trying to get me to understand all of this time. Just like it was such a simple, uncomplicated instruction for Naaman to be cured of his leprosy, God has been telling me that I have been making it unnecessarily difficult. He keeps saying, “Come unto me, and I will give you rest, take my yoke, it is easy. Stop thinking that you can change your situation, and take your hands off and just LET ME HANDLE IT…ALL OF IT!” So I immediately repented and cried out for God’s forgiveness and mercy again; realizing that I cannot continue this painful path of doing things my way. Unfortunately, I am reaping the consequences of my behavior, and SNO was not willing to forgive me that time.

God has also been using my children to encourage me to go to church even if SNO didn’t want to. So we invited him to go this past Sunday, even after the events of the previous day, and I was not at all surprised when he refused. But I prayed the moment when he said no, and within ten minutes, SNO asked if he could come too! The speaker was First Nations, and the praise and worship was so awesome that day. The speaker asked us “if you could have one thing from the Lord, what would that be? Just ask Him for it now.” Feeling overly needy, a million and one things popped into my head, and as I sat there, I thought about asking for healing in my marriage. But that changed to asking God for His love, and for His love to overflow from within me, so I can give real love and radiate His love to others; especially unconditional love and respect to SNO, who is not saved. And I can honestly say that after the service, I felt something different inside of me; so much that I had peace about my situation. I thank God for changing my heart that day, and my thinking too; because I know something SUPERNATURAL happened since I went from being doubtful, to trusting God and getting excited about what God is doing and is going to do in our lives!

After church, we went out to lunch, and then coffee, and grocery shopping and just had a peaceful day. In the evening, SNO said something that was not so nice, and by God’s grace, I was able to ignore it. And before I knew it, SNO was apologizing! Praise God for showing me that “without a word” really works! Okay, I knew it before, but I guess I just needed the reminder! So please continue to pray for me; especially that I will follow the example given in 1 Peter 3:1-6, and for SNO, who needs salvation.

So, friends, I share my journey with you in hope of reaching someone who might have lost hope along the way and might be in a similar situation. And I want to encourage you and assure you that if you’re in the same place, God does not want you to stay there; so please call out to our Lord God and repent and receive His forgiveness; because you will experience great peace from knowing that you are clean before Him. And for the rest of you, please keep posting as I have been greatly encouraged by each and every single one of your posts. We just never know how God uses each of our testimonies, and we may never know until we reach the other side. I thank God for all of you and pray for you and your spouses by name. And I give thanks to Him for always being God and never changing. Be encouraged that He is working in each of our individual situations, all at the same time! Yes, He is the great I am and I give Him praise for reminding me of the story of Naaman, who “went down to the Jordan River, he dipped himself in it seven times, he did exactly what the man of God had told him to do, then his skin was made pure again. It became clean like the skin of a young boy.” God bless you all as we stand strong together!

As regular visitors to the site know, it’s been increasingly difficult to write Seeds Of Faith posts as I did before the ministry started growing so much, but I just don’t have the time these days. However, we do want this site to provide hope and encouragement to men and women standing on the power and promise of God’s Word for marriage restoration, so I will be making a more concerted effort to post actual testimonies from the private website here on occasion because I know little else matches the powerful encouragement of seeing how God has been (and still is) working in the lives of other men and women standing for marriage restoration, and even those who already have Restored Marriage Testimonies, which is no surprise considering the awesome revelation found in Revelation 12:10-11! And since we have truly been blessed in recent days with some very powerful After Marriage Restoration testimonies, I want to share one of them here today, which I know will be a blessing and great source of encouragement to everyone standing for marriage restoration! And more will be coming in the next few days too, so I thank our FAM Fellowship members for permission to share the word of their testimonies here as well! So be blessed and encouraged and keep in mind that God is faithful, and if He said it, HE IS GOING TO DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO DO IT (Isaiah 46:10-11)!

Hope NEVER Disappoints!

Hi Everyone,
I have come to realize more than ever that standing for marriage restoration is about transformation and not just about bringing our spouses home. I thought that when SNO came home, we could pick up where we left off; just with God in control this time. But God wants so much more for us and that has been evident in what He has been doing in our marriage. He is continuing to change me and He has been changing my husband in ways I never would have imagined. So I just want to share some praises here in hopes of encouraging someone; especially anyone who might question why they are standing for the restoration of their marriage.

One of the biggest praises I have is that God has taught me what the “forget” part means in “forgive and forget.” When I look back on our separation and the weeks leading up to it, I realize that I have forgotten the pain I felt during that time. Yes, I recall that I felt pain, but even if I tried, I could not describe all of the negative emotions I felt then because my memories of that pain have been replaced by my memories of how God revealed Himself to me in such amazing ways during that time, as well as all of the comfort He provided me.

And while we are talking about forgetting, SNO seems to have forgotten many things too! During our separation, he told me that there was no way we could ever make things work again after what we had been through; including discussions about divorce. He even re-iterated that just days before he returned home; saying that things could never be the same. And he was right…things haven’t been the same; they are better than ever before!! And I have noticed that SNO talks about last fall and the holidays as though he never left and we never spent time apart! So I praise God that He has bound up our wounds and made us new again!!

We celebrated our 2nd wedding anniversary in Jamaica last week, and I praise God for blessing us with such a wonderful trip and for all of the quality time we were able to spend together. I’m not a morning person, but on the morning of our anniversary, God woke me up pretty early and I could not sleep. So I stepped outside on our veranda and I started praying over our marriage. And shortly after that, God blessed me with the most beautiful sunrise I have ever seen in my life!

Then on the night of our anniversary, we enjoyed a private, romantic dinner out on one of the piers. It was the most romantic dinner I have ever had; complete with flowers covering the table and the entire area being covered with little candles. It was an extremely windy evening; so windy that I thought the lettuce from our salads was going to blow away! As the sun was going down, our waiter attempted to light all of our candles, and I thought to myself that there was no way any candle could stand up to that wind!! But he wouldn’t give up, and he said that if we didn’t have the candles, we would be sitting in complete darkness. Then he said that when God said there would be light, there was light and this would be no exception. I smiled because I knew immediately that those candles were going to be lit! And just a few moments later, the heavy wind stopped and every single one of the candles were lit and remained lit for our special anniversary dinner, and I felt very blessed to have only God’s special light surrounding us that night! Since the strong winds, darkness, and light represent so many things in the restoration of our marriage, words cannot even describe all of the special emotions I felt. God is so good!!

When our plane landed back in our hometown after our trip, I realized that I had a missed call from my doctor. After experiencing our second miscarriage in a row several weeks ago, my doctor became very concerned and ordered some tests to determine if there was a cause, so that it could be prevented in the future. The second miscarriage really broke my heart, but I have had so much peace knowing that God is in control. So I actually haven’t been too concerned with the tests. Although I have had a few instances in which I allowed myself to feel like a victim and to feel hopeless, God has really helped me pull past that, and I know that SNO and I will be parents in His perfect timing. So, the doctor was calling to deliver some of the test findings. They were able to determine the cause of the second miscarriage and it turns out that it was not preventable and it was the result of something that is very unlikely to happen again. So I praise God that He used this test to strengthen the hope we have that we will eventually have a successful pregnancy.

Sadly, the day we returned from our trip, one of our friends died in an automobile accident while he was driving home from work. And I have not been able to get his wife out of my thoughts and prayers because they have only been married since last October, after dating for ten years. He was a good friend of SNO’s, and I have never seen my husband so affected by someone’s death as much as he has been now. But God seems to be using this situation to really speak to him. He told me that if he ever lost me, he didn’t know how he would be able to move forward with his life. Praise God for how He has softened my husband’s heart!!! It was less than a year ago that SNO voluntarily left me and started creating a new life without me. Yet God has done such a mighty work, that he now says that he can’t imagine his life without me! However, my prayer is that if anything ever does happen to me, he will find strength and peace in God to move forward.

As a result of his friend’s death, he has started opening up to me about financial matters he never wanted to discuss with me before. He said that his friend’s death has been a wake-up call for him and he wants to make sure that he starts being more responsible. And I don’t think I can adequately communicate what a huge praise this is, because in the past, discussions concerning certain areas of our finances have always been tense and he has refused to discuss anything with me. And whenever I brought it up, we would end up in a fight. Needless to say, since he has been home, I have not brought it up and I have not even felt the need to because I now know that God is in complete control. So imagine my surprise when he set up an appointment with his brother (who is a financial advisor) to discuss previously private financial areas and asked that I attend and bring up any questions or concerns I have. Praise the Lord!!

I also praise God because He is helping SNO have more patience with me. Yet, that is not something I have ever brought up to him or even anything I have taken to God in prayer, but God knows our needs better than we do. A few days ago, we were getting ready to go somewhere, and as we were walking out the door, I noticed that SNO was being very quiet and he seemed a bit distant. I thought he was upset about something we had talked about earlier, so I apologized to him if I had upset him. And he surprised me by saying, “I’m not upset about that at all. I was just getting impatient because we are running late, but I didn’t want to say anything because I am working on improving my patience.” Praise God!! In the past, if I was running even 5 minutes late, he would be so upset with me that we would be fighting in the car and the evening would practically be ruined. So I have been working on being more on time and I praise God that He laid it on my husband’s heart to be more patient with me!

I feel like I could go on and on about all of the great things God is doing! God has been showing me what it means to be a submissive wife, as His word instructs, and I have seen so many positive results and changes in SNO, which has changed the dynamic of our relationship in such an amazing way. In addition, God has taken away SNO’s strong desire for alcohol and has replaced it with a desire to return to cycling. So every day, I am in complete awe of the changes God has made in our marriage and things keep getting better. I know there are moments when I have slipped, but I thank God that He has picked me right back up!

I hope this will provide at least a little bit of encouragement for my FAMM family. I know that God is working in all of our marriages and He will be faithful to complete the work He has started. So please remember that hope never disappoints (Isaiah 49:23 and Romans 5:5)!!

With Love,
MNO (member name omitted

Today’s Small Straws message from Marsha Burns is one of the simplest and yet most powerful messages I’ve seen for men and women standing for marriage restoration in a long time. So I hope and pray that everyone reading it will very seriously meditate on it and consider its significance as we stand for the Lord’s SUPERNATURAL power to be released on our behalf and manifested in our lives and marriages. And when we do, we will most definitely be blessed and encouraged beyond belief, especially when we also heed the rest of the instructions given to us by the Lord in Romans 12:20-21, which says On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

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Spirit of Prophecy Bulletin

SMALL STRAWS IN A SOFT WIND by Marsha Burns — June 24, 2009:

Have I not spoken to you to give place for wrath? I cannot bring justice as long as you take matters into your own hands. Forgiveness is what makes a place for judgment in My kingdom, says the Lord. I see the injustice, the reproach, and the betrayal, and certainly I will repay. But, my wrath will also give place for conviction and repentance. You don’t have to micromanage your situation. Trust Me to bring righteousness to every circumstance. The only thing you have to manage is your own indignation.
Romans 12:19 Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord.

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I know our regular visitors to the public site have noticed that I don’t get to post Seeds Of Faith posts the way I used to, which I greatly miss, but that’s because I’ve been so busy keeping up with my other ministry responsibilities and the private FAM Fellowship website. The Lord has blessed us with so many new members recently (over thirty in the past six weeks), and we have truly been blessed beyond belief to see Him moving so mightily in our midst—and we really don’t know who will be next! But since I know it’s very encouraging to hear the testimonies of others when we are standing in faith and obedience on the power and promise of God’s Word for marriage restoration, and we are called to give God the praise, honor and glory He deserves, I want to share just some of what we have seen God do in the lives of our FAMM family in just the past week.

First, we were all truly blessed beyond words to see the Restored Marriage Testimonies of two of our members this past Wednesday, and then another one the following day!!!

After dealing with years of her husband’s non-covenant relationships including a child born to one of them, herself being unfaithful, and many attempts to restore their marriage, MNO (member name omitted) decided that she had to do whatever it took to provide for herself and her children without relying on her husband. So right after Christmas last year, she sent her children out of state to live with her mother and began an accelerated nursing program and cut her ties with her husband while she focused on doing what she needed to do for her family. And within a few months, her husband left the NCP and was living with friends and relatives, and after a death in his family last April, he came to his wife and told her he was coming home and they have all been back together as a family now for almost two months! And she says that things are VERY different and MUCH better than ever before! Praise the Lord!

After fifteen months of separation, and recently setting up house with an NCP (non-covenant person) she had been involved with years ago, MNO’s wife was very upset when the family went on a vacation without her, because it’s been pretty obvious for some time that she had already fallen in love with her husband again. So he comforted her by telling her that he really wanted to invite her, and that as hard as it was, they would be okay and had to get used to separate vacations given the current circumstances; which she later told him really hit her because she knew that wasn’t what she wanted and that he wasn’t saying it to be mean but because he was accepting her decision even though it wasn’t what he wanted. And soon after returning from their vacation, she spent the day with her family, and during that time, she told MNO that she loved him very much and missed him terribly and that she was sorry for everything. But she doesn’t know how they can get past everything or how to unweave the mess she has created. But He assured her that they had made it together and that the Lord could help them get through it and give them the strength and grace to move forward; that they could just take it one day at a time. And standing in faith on the power and promise of God’s Word, he claimed the restoration of his marriage because he knows that his wife’s heart is home and she will soon follow!

After being an unfaithful wife, the Lord brought MNO back to Him a little more than a year ago and called her to stand for her marriage even though her husband was involved with someone else at that time as well and ended up filing for divorce. And after recently coming home for about three weeks, he left again (to live with family members and not the NCP) because he said that he needed to know what God’s will for his life is and that his desire is to do not what he wants to do, but what God wants him to do! Well, he took her to lunch this week and told her that he wants to stay married and even though he doesn’t know how to work that out, it is what he wants to do. And he has started making plans for them as a family; such as vacations together and even making home improvements he knows she wants! So knowing that and that GOD will bring it to pass, she also stood on the power and promise of His Word and claimed the restoration of her marriage, which we all agree will be very soon!

But God didn’t stop there! In addition to the three wonderful Restored Marriage Testimonies mentioned above, we were also blessed to see God moving very powerfully in the hearts and marriages of seven other FAM members as well!

After three months of separation and quite a bit of hostility, and recently finding out that the NCP is pregnant, one of our newer member’s husband told her that he misses home, but doesn’t know where to start and if things can even “be fixed.” Needless to say, those words were music to her ears and she assured him that they can be!

After a little more than eleven months of separation and a child born to the NCP, another one of our newer member’s husband told her that “the grass isn’t greener on the other side”…but he doesn’t know “how to get back.” Needless to say, those were very encouraging words, and even though her husband continues to be double-minded, she sees God moving in his heart and knows their marriage will be restored!

After not attending church during their separation and divorce for the past year, MNO’s wife has been attending church with him and their daughter since Mother’s Day and even wants to sing in the praise and worship band now! Even though she says they are “just friends,” she displays affection in public, which is something they never used to do! So MNO knows that it’s just a matter of time before the Lord completes the restoration of their marriage; in the same way his wife is now being restored to her walk and relationship with Him! And as God tends to do with all of us, He has really used this time to draw MNO closer to Him too, and there’s no doubt that his wife likes the changes she sees in the new husband God has been making him!

After nine months of separation, being very angry and very little contact, another one of our new member’s husband has called twice this month and they have had pleasant conversations and now they are going out to dinner today, which just happens to be their 18th wedding anniversary! Needless to say, she is thrilled and very excited about what the Lord is doing on her behalf and to see her husband’s heart soften so much! So we’re praying that the Lord will totally melt his heart today and he will just fall in love with his wife all over again tonight!

After nine months of separation and no contact or expression of interest in anything to do with his wife, MNO’s husband asked his mother how MNO is doing and said he knows that she loves him; but she doesn’t like him or his friends. While that might not seem like much, it really is because it demonstrates that his thoughts have turned back to her and their marriage, which means his heart will soon follow, and then his feet…and we know that where our feet go, there our bodies go as well! So that’s just one more husband on his way home! Praise the Lord!

After almost thirty years of marriage and being separated and divorced for almost three years, MNO recently heard from a family member that her husband is no longer with the NCP; which might explain why twice in the past few weeks, he called her with impromptu dinner invitations, during which time they were both in tears as he shared things going on in the lives of people they knew that would naturally cause him to think about his own life. And for the first time in many years, he went on vacation to visit his family and will return today, which he sent a text to let her know and to say that he would call when he returns. So God is obviously working in his heart and life, and as MNO said, we all stand in agreement that he was going home to come home!

Another one of our new members joined the fellowship even though she filed for divorce after years of her husband being unfaithful and even having a child with the NCP, and their final divorce hearing was fast approaching. But God had a totally different plan! I always tell members who have filed for divorce that we can’t stand for marriage restoration while pursuing a divorce because that’s certainly not consistent with walking in faith or being obedient, and I encourage FAM members who have done so to withdraw their divorce petitions. But before I could actually speak with MNO, God intervened and the hearing was postponed. Two days before the hearing, she found out that she is pregnant and the night before the hearing, one of their children was hospitalized with pneumonia and they had to postpone the hearing. Yet, within an hour after doing so, the doctors decided to send them home with antibiotics! And two days later, her husband decided to move away and live with his parents instead of the NCP! Needless to say, God is obviously speaking to both of their hearts and I’d say getting their attention! God’s will and plan will NEVER be thwarted!

It’s so exciting and exhilarating to see how mightily and powerfully God has been moving in the hearts and lives of our members and their spouses recently because they have made a commitment to stand in faith and obedience on the power and promise of His Word for the full and complete restoration of their marriages and families, which means learning to be the spouses God has called them to be, to love and respect their spouses unconditionally and to LET GO and leave their spouses and marriages in the hands of our most awesome and faithful God! Marriage restoration is done in the SUPERNATURAL, so we have to learn HOW to work together with God instead of against Him as the world teaches and promotes, and the ONLY way to do that is according to His Word. But when we stand on the power and promise of His Word in faith and obedience, we are in fact humbling ourselves under the mighty, loving, and ever faithful hand of our great and mighty God and HE WILL LIFT US UP IN DUE TIME…just as He promised in 1 Peter 5:5-8!!! So as we all say as FAM Fellowship members…GOD IS MOVING…SO GET READY!!! And the way to do that is to LEARN WHAT HIS WORD SAYS AND DO IT TO THE BEST OF OUR ABILITY! And then we will indeed be blessed beyond belief because we will be ready when our spouses come back home!

Today’s Small Straws message from Marsha Burns is so simple; yet so powerful that I just have to share it here and pray that everyone standing for marriage restoration and finding it difficult to “rest” in the Lord will be blessed and encouraged!

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Spirit of Prophecy Bulletin
SMALL STRAWS IN A SOFT WIND by Marsha Burns — June 9, 2009:
Even though things still seem strange, unpredictable, and unsettled, you can rest assured that I know every detail of your circumstances. I hold your times and seasons in My hand, says the Lord, and I will establish, settle, and strengthen you in the purposes of My will. All you have to do is trust Me and obey My leading. Doubt, frustration, and double-mindedness will get you nowhere. Make a quality decision now to stand in faith that I will lead the way and bring you through this difficult time in triumph.
Deuteronomy 33:27a The eternal God is your refuge, and underneath are the everlasting arms.
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(Note from Linda: I have no doubt that everyone standing for marriage restoration will be blessed and encouraged by the post Donna shared on the private website over the weekend. And since one of the other members reminded me of something I had shared in a Seeds Of Faith post over two years ago, The Power and Purpose of the Refiner’s Fire, I want to share that as well because it really does go hand in hand with the powerful message in Donna’s post. As I shared then, I received the following in an email message that morning:
“Malachi 3:3 says: “He will sit as a refiner and purifier of silver.”
This verse puzzled some women in a Bible study and they wondered what this statement meant about the character and nature of God. One of the women offered to find out the process of refining silver and get back to the group at their next Bible Study.
That week, the woman called a silversmith and made an appointment to watch him at work. She didn’t mention anything about the reason for her interest beyond her curiosity about the process of refining silver.
As she watched the silversmith, he held a piece of silver over the fire and let it heat up. He explained that in refining silver, one needed to hold the silver in the middle of the fire where the flames were hottest as to burn away all the impurities.
The woman thought about God holding us in such a hot spot; then she thought again about the verse that says: “He sits as a refiner and purifier of silver.” She asked the silversmith if it was true that he had to sit there in front of the fire the whole time the silver was being refined. The man answered that yes, he not only had to sit there holding the silver, but he had to keep his eyes on the silver the entire time it was in the fire. If the silver was left a moment too long in the flames, it would be destroyed.
The woman was silent for a moment. Then she asked the silversmith, “How do you know when the silver is fully refined?” He smiled at her and answered, “Oh, that’s easy — when I see my image in it.”

So I pray that anyone who is feeling the intense heat of the Refiner’s fire or the discomfort of the Potter’s wheel, will be comforted to know that Luke 3:16 says John answered them all, “I baptize you with water. But one more powerful than I will come, the thongs of whose sandals I am not worthy to untie. He will baptize you with the Holy Spirit and with fire. And instead of feeling defeated and discouraged because of the heat and pressure, I hope and pray that you will keep your eyes upon Jesus so you can be purified, strengthened, blessed, and encouraged as you’re molded and transformed to reflect the image of Christ! And we will indeed be blessed and encouraged when we learn to sing our Lord’s praises even in the midst of our trials as Donna shared!)

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Hi FAMM Family,

I am so excited about the growth of the ministry that I’m rejoicing. Welcome to all of the new members. This may very well be the most exciting time of our lives. How incredibly AWESOME to have the privilege of watching God transform us and our spouses into the vessels He has always intended us to be.

I saw John Hagee on television the other day, and he was speaking about his trip to Israel. He said he and his wife went to a potter’s house to see how he worked with the clay. He said that the potter was working on his wheel, taking the lumps out of the clay. The potter put the clay on the wheel, which he turned with his feet, and then pounded the clay until there were no more lumps. He then formed it into a vessel and placed it in the fire. Hagee asked the potter how he knew when the pot was ready to be removed from the fire. The potter replied, “When it sings.” The potter removed the pot from the fire, and while it was still red with heat, he thumped the pot, and the pot rang out the most beautiful sound; like a song. So it was ready to be removed from the fire. If the pot had not responded with a song, the potter would have put it back into the fire until it sang.

I think this is a beautiful analogy of how God molds us. God is the potter, and we are the clay. And it seems that the more we sing, the quicker we get out of the fire. Praise God and rejoice. The answer is always in our response to the fire we are in at any given time. So, I am singing my heart out. God bless our family and remember to SING, SING, SING!

(Note from Linda: Karen shared this on the private website yesterday and since it’s such a powerful and simple message, *I appreciate her permission to share it here as well because there is no doubt that we all would be mightily blessed and encouraged if we just understood what a difference our God can make! Thanks for such a simple and yet powerful reminder, Karen!)

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Hi Everyone. God revealed Himself in a mighty way to me this morning, and I want to share it with you.

I walked outside with our dog, as I do every morning, and looked toward the east. The sun was rising into a beautiful blue cloudless sky and I spoke to God about how there was not a cloud in the sky, when He brought yesterday morning to my mind.

I saw no sun yesterday. I could see a small bit of pink way off in the southeast sky, but it didn’t look promising. I also could see patches of rain coming down in the distance from steel gray clouds, and I remember noting a variety of angry-looking cloud formations. At the time, I hoped my dog would hurry and get to doing her business because it was going to rain soon and she hates the rain.

Wow! Twenty-four hours later, there was no trace of the storm. Some might say, “What a difference a day makes!” but I say, “What a difference our God makes!” The God of the universe, the Creator of the earth and the sky, can in one sweep of His hand dispel every menacing cloud and erase them totally from view. Our lives may be cloudy and stormy now, and we might not even be able to see the sun yet, but it is coming because His promise to us is blue sky and bright sunshine after we weather the storm.

So God reminded me of His power this morning, and how quickly He can act and how completely He can transform…not just the sky, but also our hearts, our lives, our spouses, and our marriages.

Praise Him for He is God Almighty!

If we truly understood the awesome SUPERNATURAL power released into our lives and circumstances when we faithfully trust God, it would be the easiest thing we ever do. But the sad reality is that when it comes right down to it and when it usually matters most in our lives, most Christians don’t truly trust God. So, as someone ministering to men and women standing against all earthly odds for marriage restoration, I know that helping them truly understand the greatness and faithfulness of our God and that He loves us with such an awesome and everlasting love as they develop a personal and intimate relationship with Him is the single most important thing I will ever do. And with every passing day of experience in marriage restoration ministry, I am more convinced than ever that the root of every moment of fear, despair, anger, frustration and many other negative emotions often experienced when standing for marriage restoration is our failure to know, understand and faithfully trust God. So with that in mind, I recently started writing a post about what it means to really acknowledge God in all our ways, which I hope to complete and publish soon.

However, as the ministry continues to grow very rapidly and so far beyond anything I ever imagined when establishing it over four years ago, writing Seeds Of Faith posts is something I rarely have time to do these days, so I apologize to everyone who has been concerned and especially appreciate hearing from those of you who have called or written to find out why I haven’t done that for the past few weeks. But since the FAM Fellowship was blessed to add twenty-one new members to our family last month, and since there’s little doubt that we will continue to grow, one of the main items on the agenda for tonight’s FAMM Board meeting will be finding ways to better manage such rapid growth and better meet the needs of our members. And it is my goal, though not all that realistic, to free up some of my time to be able to write more, because that’s something I truly love doing. In the meanwhile, I encourage everyone to make use of the option to search and read the archives, because they contain posts on most topics of interest and importance when standing for marriage restoration. And please keep the growth of the ministry and our ability to effectively manage it without losing all that we love about it in your prayers.

As always, God’s faithfulness to confirm the messages He wants to get across to us and the way we see recurring themes in the ministry keeps me in a continuous state of awe, and yesterday was no exception! As I said, two or three days ago, I started a post about the vital importance of understanding what it means to acknowledge God in ALL our ways (based on the instructions found in Proverbs 3:5-6), which focuses on the importance of trusting and obeying God and how it’s not really possible to truly do that without studying and knowing His Word. So I really appreciated Glenn Jackson’s Life of Faith message when I received it by email last night, which I encourage everyone to read at this link, where you can also sign up to receive them by email. It’s a very powerful message and one I hope and pray every man and woman standing for marriage restoration will read and take to heart. And I couldn’t help smiling when I saw the topic because earlier in the day, I had received a message from Rich, who noticed that I haven’t posted a Seeds of Faith post in a while and wanted to suggest sharing Why Waiting is Really Trusting by Daniel Darling. And since “waiting” is one of the greatest challenges many men and women standing for marriage restoration face, it’s a perfect follow up to Glenn’s message, so I hope an pray the Lord will use both of the above messages to speak to someone today, because the lasting restoration of troubled marriages really depends on our ability to FAITHFULLY trust God NO MATTER WHAT, as we acknowledge Him in ALL of our ways and learn not to lean to our own understanding and TRUST Him WITH ALL OF OUR HEARTS; heeding the warning found in Hebrews 10:38, which declares…But my righteous one will live by faith. And if he shrinks back, I will not be pleased with him.” So let’s focus on learning to “live by faith” and we will indeed be blessed and encouraged!

Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6

Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him and he will do this: He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn, the justice of your cause like the noonday sun. Psalm 37:5-6