Archive for July, 2007

The Problem OR the Promise!

Tuesday, July 31st, 2007

With every new day in marriage restoration ministry comes greater insight and understanding of God’s Word, His character and nature, and how He works. And something God’s really impressed upon me lately is just how much effectively standing for the restoration of our marriages and families is a matter of choice. That’s right; it’s a choice, and the choice is ours to make. We choose either to focus on the problem or the promise, and we’re probably called on to make that choice at least a thousand times a day! And the more consistently we focus on the promise, the closer we get to the full and complete restoration of our marriages and families. But the more we focus on the problem, the less likely we are to experience what is in fact already ours!

That’s right. If I give you a million dollars, it isn’t really yours until you TAKE it. And even if you take it, it won’t do you a bit of good and can’t make a bit of difference in your life unless you USE it by spending it. Well, we all know what the problems are, and we certainly SHOULD know what the promises are, because the Word of God holds all of the power and promise we need to realize our hearts’ desires and the miracle of marriage restoration. But just like that million dollars, even though God has already given it to us, it won’t do us one bit of good or change anything in our lives unless we take it and use it by putting it into practice as we stand in faith and obedience for our marriages, the salvation of our spouses and the full and complete restoration of our families.

Make no mistake about it; it IS a choice, because we can NOT do both! James 1:5-8 tells us If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. But when he asks, he must believe and not doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That man should not think he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all he does. So every moment we spend focusing on our problems and the negatives related to our circumstances means we are in fact doubting the power and promises of God, making us double-minded and unstable in all our ways! And repeatedly going from the heights of joy and excitement, singing God’s praises, to the depths of doubt and despair, feeling desperately in need of prayer, because something unexpected or unpleasant happened (or because something we wanted or expected DIDN’T happen) is EXACTLY what the above passage means when it says he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. But what we tend to forget is that God’s plan for us and the restoration of our marriages and families are exactly the SAME on the days Satan is able to distract us and get us to focus on HIS power and plan instead of God’s, as on the days we praise and glorify His Holy name!. So, in reality, NOTHING has changed but our attitude and the level of our gratitude and appreciation for the power of God’s Word and plan! So we have to choose whether we want to live our lives according to the level of confidence we have in either the power and plan of the devil, which is always to kill, steal and destroy; or God’s, which is for life, and life overflowing with abundance! We know that, because in John 10:10 (AMP), Jesus tells us The thief comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance (to the full, till it overflows). And in Jeremiah 29:11-13, God assures us For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.

When we see something happen over and over again, we can learn from it, and one thing we see so clearly and consistently on the private pages of the FAM Fellowship is that focusing on the promise cancels out the problem and focusing on the problem cancels out the promise! Understanding that should make the choice pretty easy to make, so the question is HOW to focus on the promise instead of the problem, which the following verses of scripture teach us to do:

Psalm 55:22 - Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall.

Philippians 4:4-9 - Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

2 Corinthians 10:5 - We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.

Colossians 4:2 - Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful

So the choice is ours to make. We can focus on and magnify the pain and disappointment associated with our problems and be miserable and we’ll probably stay that way. Or we can focus on the power and promise of God’s Word and actually enjoy and make the most of our daily lives as we await and prepare for the restoration of our marriages! So let’s take EVERY thought captive and make them obedient to Christ and the Word! Be blessed and encouraged, which you will indeed be if you keep your focus on the promise instead of the problem!

Looking for Happiness in all the Wrong Places

Monday, July 30th, 2007

It’s probably safe to say that the number one pursuit when seeking a divorce is happiness, and that’s because the grass always looks so much greener on the other side! But how sad and shameful it is that the divorce rate among Christians is now even higher than the divorce rate among those not professing Christianity. And one of the most common rationalizations and totally unfounded justifications for that is “God wants me to be happy…and I’m not happy.” So I was very impressed with the following message from Dennis L. Wingfield of Rejoice Ministries, which was posted on the men’s private site yesterday, because it does a very good job of dispelling that mistaken impression. Therefore, the next time you put your eyes on the circumstances that lead you to believe your prodigal spouse is happy, remember the following message and be blessed and encouraged as you rely on the power and promise of God’s Word and His ability and faithfulness to bring it ALL to pass!

THE TRUE PATH TO HAPPINESS

“Happy are those who walk in the law of the Lord.” Psalm 119:1

Occasionally I receive comments about this devotional stating that I am giving individuals false hope for the healing of their marriages. These individuals say they have stood long enough and the Lord wants them to get on with their lives. I have searched God’s Word high and low for scriptures that justify this, but I have found none. The world will never provide true happiness, but God’s Word says, “Happy are those who walk in the law of the Lord.”

Moreover, what does God’s Word have to say about the divorced and separated?

“To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain single or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.” 1 Corinthians 7:10-11

God’s Word does not say go out and find another spouse. God’s Word does not say go out and date other people. God’s Word DOES say to remain single or reconcile with your spouse! God does not give you a task without providing the grace necessary to do it.

“If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all - how will be not also along with him, graciously give us all things?” Romans 8:31-32

God will graciously give you all things when you are obedient to His Word. Seeking the world’s remedies to your problems will never bring happiness. Nothing can separate you from the love of Christ except your own willful disobedience to His leading.

“Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword (or separation or divorce)? No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:35, 37-39

Only God can fill the emptiness in your heart. Your absent spouse cannot fill the emptiness nor can the lure of the world. Only Jesus Christ can fill your love hunger. Seek the peace that only comes from the Father.

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” John 16:33

God does not promise happiness but troubles in this world. I hear from Standers that have given up the fight. They say they have heard from the Lord and He wants them to be “happy.” This is simply not scriptural and therefore cannot be from God. When feelings like this well up in your heart, run to the throne of grace to fill yourself with God’s merciful love.

“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” Matthew 6:33-34

Standing involves seeking the Lord and His mercy, one day at a time. The Lord is with you every step of the way.

“Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has gone through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are - yet was without sin. Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.” Hebrews 4:14-16

Only God can provide the mercy and grace needed to continue standing for the healing of your family. The world can only deliver empty promises. God hurts when you hurt. He knows first hand the feelings of loneliness and rejection that you are experiencing. He wants to help. Patiently wait for the Lord and His deliverance. He will never fail you!

“Surely he has borne our griefs and carried our sorrows…He was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities; the chastisement for our peace was upon him, and by his stripes we are healed.” Isaiah 53:4-5

Jesus was bruised for you. He died for your salvation. By His stripes, you are healed and that includes a healed marriage. Do not give up on your only source of hope, Jesus Christ. The world will never deliver happiness nor solve your marital problems. Only the Lord can do that. Do not turn your back on Him. He is waiting and willing to meet your every need. Do not lose hope. God will see you through.

“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” Romans 15:13

Dennis L. Wingfield
Rejoice Marriage Ministries

Learning to RECEIVE God’s Blessings!

Sunday, July 29th, 2007

One of the FAM Fellowship members posted the following Heart To Heart message on the ladies’ private site yesterday, which I want to share here; because though very simple; it’s a very powerful message about how to RECEIVE the blessings of God in our lives. And it reminded me of what Jesus said in Matthew 9:29, which says Then he touched their eyes and said, “According to your faith will it be done to you”;. And then it’s confirmed again in 1 John 2:5, which says But if anyone obeys his word, God’s love is truly made complete in him. This is how we know we are in him:. So, as 2 Thessalonians 3:5 says May the Lord direct your hearts into God’s love and Christ’s perseverance. Be blessed and encouraged!

Blessings - by Tammy

I received the following from In Touch Ministries about blessings and wanted to pass it along; I hope we’re all encouraged to let our light shine and be a blessing, because we can either stand in the light of Jesus or stand in the shadow of our mountains.

From In Touch Ministries - Dr. Charles Stanley:

“What determines the measure of God’s blessing in your life? Does He bless you a little or a lot? In Genesis 12:2, God says to Abraham, “I will make you a great nation, and I will bless you.” When God speaks of blessing someone, He says “I’m going to intervene, and act in such a way that My goodness is displayed in your life.” God intends to bless all His children. How much of that blessing you receive is up to you. You will receive the full measure of God’s blessing in your life only if you are prepared, and you can prepare by doing five things:

1. Recognize that God is the source of everything. Some of God’s blessings come through pain and disappointment. Focus on what God is up to in your life in all circumstances.

2. Listen to God. When you wake up in the morning, tune your heart to listen, and listen carefully. God is the source of direction and guidance. If you don’t listen, how will you know the will of God for your life?

3. Not only must you listen, but you must obey. You will not experience the full measure of His blessing if you act in disobedience. Once you truly believe that God’s choices are best, you will walk in obedience.

4. Start every day expecting God’s blessing in your life. Anticipate Him intervening in your life is some way that will help you succeed in whatever you’re doing. Trust and believe God for His best for you. Except it.

5. The measure of blessing you receive will be determined by the measure you give toward others. Luke 6:38 says, “Give, and it shall be given to you, good measure, pressed down, shaken together.” Each day look for opportunities to be a blessing in the lives of others.

When your focus is right, when you’re listening, when you’re being obedient, when you’re expecting God’s blessing, and when you’re blessing others, then you are prepared for blessings beyond measure.”

The Incomprehensible Power of Comprehending God’s UNFAILING Faithfulness!

Thursday, July 26th, 2007

Monday was quite a day in the FAM Fellowship as one testimony after another was posted revealing how God had worked in our midst over the weekend. And as I watched the day unfold and heard from one member after another, I knew I wanted to share that experience and all it teaches us about the character and nature of God here on the public site, because there’s nothing more important to us as Christians than REALLY comprehending the power and promise of God’s Word in our lives, and God’s UNFAILING Faithfulness to carry it out right down to the smallest detail. That’s why the strongest desire of my heart when ministering to men and women standing for the restoration of their marriages is to have them truly understand that, because nothing else even comes close to the incomprehensible power released into our lives and ability to walk in the victory Jesus came to give us when we do. FAM members would all readily acknowledge that I sometimes get frustrated with what seems like an inability to get that point across, but that’s just because I know how vitally important it is and the mind blowing power it releases into our lives when we do get it. Just as Isaiah 64:4 says Since ancient times no one has heard, no ear has perceived, no eye has seen any God besides you, who acts on behalf of those who wait for him. And again, 1 Corinthians 2:9 says However, as it is written: “No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love him” — So when we put that together with Proverbs 21:30, we should start to get it, because it says There is no wisdom, no insight, no plan that can succeed against the LORD. And then John 14:15 simply says “If you love me, you will obey what I command.

We try to make the ways of God SO complicated and there’s nothing complicated about it. He simply wants us to love Him and unreservedly trust and obey Him. Psalm 37:5-6 (AMP) really leaves NO doubt about that, especially as we stand WITH GOD for the restoration of our marriages and families, because it says Commit your way to the Lord [roll and repose each care of your load on Him]; trust (lean on, rely on, and be confident) also in Him and He will bring it to pass. And He will make your uprightness and right standing with God go forth as the light, and your justice and right as [the shining sun of] the noonday. And then Proverbs 3:5-6 (AMP) says Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding. In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge Him, and He will direct and make straight and plain your paths. But just in case that’s not clear enough, in Matthew 7:24-28, Jesus leaves absolutely NO doubt about the difference between those of us who hear His Word and put it into practice and those who hear His Word and DON’T put it into practice, in the following parable about The Wise and Foolish Builders, which says:
“Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.”From the east I summon a bird of prey; from a far-off land, a man to fulfill my purpose. What I have said, that will I bring about; what I have planned, that will I do. And then Isaiah 55:10-11 again leaves NO DOUBT of the power and promise of God’s Word, assuming we believe God, because it says As the rain and the snow come down from heaven, and do not return to it without watering the earth and making it bud and flourish, so that it yields seed for the sower and bread for the eater, so is my word that goes out from my mouth: It will not return to me empty, but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it. And once again, Jesus summed it all up in Matthew 4:4, which says Jesus answered, “It is written: ‘Man does not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.’ “ God is going to do exactly what God says He will do, and when we really understand that about His nature and character and truly understand that He has the power to do it and WILL be faithful to do it, there’s absolutely nothing we can’t achieve in our lives in the name and authority of Jesus Christ!

I was actually feeling quite disappointed that I didn’t have time to share Monday’s amazing testimonies and praise reports from the private site here yesterday, but when I heard Joyce Meyer’s TV broadcast message this morning, I just had to laugh, because God was so clearly up to one of the things about Him that ALWAYS TOTALLY blows my mind, which is His amazing faithfulness to confirm important messages He’s trying to get across to us. And that’s exactly what He did once again today through Joyce’s message, Going Deeper In God - Part 1! So I’d strongly recommend listening to this very important message from Joyce, and then reading the following posts and responses that were posted on the ladies private website Monday, because there’s no way to see God in action as He has been in our midst without recognizing the incomprehensible power gained by comprehending Gods UNFAILING faithfulness to bring His Word to pass!
So I greatly appreciate permission from the FAM Fellowship members to share their testimonies and responses here, because I know they will bless and encourage you!
Note: For the sake of privacy names of members are sometimes omitted (MNO) and spouse names are always omitted (SNO). Also, the posts appear in the order in which they were posted, so it’s interesting to see how Fran’s spirits were lifted throughout the day.

Rough Days – by Fran
Rough Days

This past weekend was a pretty rough time for me. My husband filed for divorce three months ago, and in my state, it can take as little as 60 days for the whole case to be settled. Well, before he left to go on a trip this weekend, he brought me some papers to look over. And these papers are to be our final divorce decree, if God allows it, and he wants us to go some time this week to have them notarized. After that, I believe they would still have to go to a judge before being finalized.

I do not want to sign these papers. I do not want a divorce. I do know that God is still in control and if I have to go through this, I need His grace to get me through it.

Please pray for me as I am having a hard time praying for myself. I feel so emotionally drained and empty right now. I guess if there is any praise left in me, I’m thankful and I praise God that I am still standing. I am still believing in Him and His Word. And my desire is still to please Him.

Response by Christy on July 23rd, 2007 at 10:22 am
I can understand how you are feeling, Fran, although not exactly. I had to have this, that and the other signed and notarized about a month and a half ago. And it was very hard. But to this day, SNO still has not filed the papers, although they are ready. I know you don’t want to sign the papers, but it is God’s will for you to be submissive to your husband, though not His will for you to divorce. I know you know this, but remember that God hates divorce, and if He allows it, it is part of the plan. I know that sounds contradictory, but sometimes He allows these things, even if we have no idea why. But we will soon know. I don’t want to think that moving out and/or divorce is part of His plan for me, but it may be. It’s hard to get our heads around it sometimes, but God has it covered. He really, and truly does! This trial is only temporary! If you and hubby are separated for a time, then think of the greater plan and how much better your marriage will be when you two are restored.

We all have to remember our stands are callings from God. He chose us to stand for our marriages, because He knows we can do it. He’s entrusted us with this task. He has a unique and different plan for you, Fran, than for me or Linda or Diane or anyone else here. We all have certain people we need to touch with our stands. Most importantly our spouses. Some of us have unsaved spouses while others have spouses that have “wandered away” from God. Think of who we can reach as a result of our victories over the devil’s plans to destroy the family.

One of the things that got me through all the stuff I had to sign was that I was doing it out of obedience to my spouse. I spent so many years not doing as SNO pleased… boy! I felt I owed it to him. But I’ve noticed that as I’ve done what SNO wanted me to do; such as buy a house, sign over this and that to him and now hiring a huge, very noticeable U-Haul truck to move, his heart has softened. The more I do as I should, even though it hurts, SNO turns a bit back toward me. We will be rewarded for obedience to our spouses and to God, even if we don’t see it now.

I didn’t mean to make this post about me. I am using my examples to show you that even though it goes against the voice inside us that says divorce is wrong, it can still work out. We have to keep in mind that no matter what we do or no matter what our spouses do, God can fix any situation or use the situation or completely do the opposite! It’s a great feeling to know we have a God and Savior who can do anything we ask, and that He loves us that much.

1 Peter 4:12-13 “Dear friends, do not be surprised at the painful trial you are suffering, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice that you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when his glory is revealed.”

1 Peter 5:8-10 “Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings. And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast.

Keep praising the Lord even if you don’t feel like it! You’re right to do so. Praise God that you and SNO are still in contact and he can see you and spend time with you! The more you praise, the more you will feel like it and the more power and faith you will receive from your praises. You’re right, - He will get you through it; whatever “it” may be!

Response by Maria on July 23rd, 2007 at 12:15 pm
Fran, I’ve been through a lot of pain lately myself, and I know exactly how you feel. Glad that you are praising God for upholding your stand. That’s a big one. If you go back and look at Diane’s praise testimonies, you’ll see why you remind me of her and where she stood back in January. We don’t know God’s plans; we are apparently just assisting Him while He is busy at work. He chose us to go alongside Him while He is working and we can rest assured He knows what He is doing. Just praise Him for choosing you to go alongside Him and watch, because He is a great God and we trust Him completely. He will never leave you or forsake you. He is like the dad who flings his child in the air and then catches him just in time. The child is laughing all the while, because he knows that his dad will catch him and is not worried however frightening it may look from high above. I praise the Lord that He gave you this chance and that He is so good that He will see you through this and restore your marriage, because He hates divorce. Glory to His name.

Response by Linda Wattu on July 23rd, 2007 at 12:20 pm
WOW, Christy! What an awesome response and I hope it provides great encouragement and a reminder for you, Fran! Every word she wrote is SO true! And if anyone can attest to that, it is Diane! In fact, ladies, I think this is such an important message, I’d greatly appreciate your permission to share it on the public website in Seeds Of Faith, spouse names omitted, of course. It is such an important message and reminder for anyone facing divorce to understand that God is STILL in control, and that if He allows a divorce to be finalized, that too IS part of His perfect plan for restoration. Sometimes it takes a divorce and the consequences, for our spouses to realize that it was not what they wanted or expected after all. So the longer we hold on to preventing it, the longer God’s plan will take to be manifested. God could stop a divorce in a heart beat if He wanted to, and we have to believe that. So anytime one takes place when we’re standing on the power and promises of His Word, it is ONLY to accomplish HIS plan and the restoration of our marriages. And since God doesn’t do anything half way, it may well take what appears to be the total death and burial of our marriages to be fully able to see God’s glory when they are resurrected!

And Christy, sharing your experience as you have here, is not making it about you; it’s using the word of your testimony to defeat the devil, which is exactly what we know we’re supposed to do according to Revelation 12:10-11, which says Then I heard a loud voice in heaven say: “Now have come the salvation and the power and the kingdom of our God, and the authority of his Christ. For the accuser of our brothers, who accuses them before our God day and night, has been hurled down. They overcame him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony; they did not love their lives so much as to shrink from death.

And we do have to rely on God’s instructions to us as wives, even in this process, because when we lean not to our own understanding and trust and obey Him, we know we can count on His promises to make our path straight (Proverbs 3:5-6)and to make our righteousness shine like the dawn and the justice of our cause like the noon day sun (Psalm 37:5-6)! And He does tell us to submit to our husbands in EVERYTHING, as unto the Lord, as
we see in Ephesians 5:22-24, which says Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. And Colossians 3:18 says Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. And 1 Corinthians 7:15, instructs us to let an unbelieving spouse leave if they want to, and if they don’t believe in God’s instructions against adultery and divorce, they ARE unbelieving. It says But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. And the word there for “bound” is not the word used elsewhere for the bond of marriage, but it’s a word used elsewhere in the Bible to denote slavery.

Fran, we will most certainly keep you in our prayers, Honey, and we are confident that the Lord is with you and that His love and grace will sustain you.

Dear Lord, we thank you for your love and grace and the power and promise of your Word. We thank you that we have your assurance that when we trust and obey you, and stand in faith and obedience for the full and complete restoration of our marriages, you will uphold them and do whatever it takes to restore them. We thank you for peace that passes all human understanding, which we have only because we put our faith and confidence in your Word and your faithfulness and ability to carry it out. Please give Fran and everyone else the peace and comfort needed as we face challenges during times of testing and trial. We know you give us all we need to accomplish the things you have called us to do, and that we CAN do ALL things through Christ Jesus who strengthens us! We will be victors and not defeated! We will see our marriages restored in the name and authority of Jesus Christ, and He WILL be glorified! We love you and give you All praise, honor and glory for the great and mighty things you have done and will continue to do as we simply trust and obey you! And we ask all this in the most powerful name in all of heaven and earth, which is Jesus Christ! Amen.

Response by Thursa on July 23rd, 2007 at 1:18 pm
This is a wonderful all around post!!! Fran, I know God is using your entire testimony for His glory! This is proof in that as you were obedient and shared your burden with us here at FAMM. God is so wonderful He used that to provide encouragement for you and for all of the others through what you have shared! As Linda mentions, it is our testimonies that kick Satan right on out of here!!! God NEVER gives us more than we can handle, just as He says in 1 Corinthians 10:13 “No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.” He also tells us that in Isaiah 43:2 “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.” And notice it doesn’t say IF you pass through, it says WHEN!!! God’s Word is His promise to US so you can know you WILL pass through this and His glory is going to shine so very brightly in your complete marriage restoration!!! So STAND strong and have confidence in the mighty promises God has given you and all of us Fran! This is just a bump on your mighty God glorifying journey to complete marriage restoration!!!

Response by Fran on July 23rd, 2007 at 2:57 pm
I just wanted to update you guys some. The power of prayer has worked. The feeling of heaviness that I had this morning and all yesterday is gone. I have my joy back. You guys are so uplifting and encouraging. How could I possibly stay in a rut? Yes I know that God is here and I know that He has gotten me here. He will not leave me nor will He forsake me. I just sometimes need to hear it from someone who really understands. Thanks to all of you for your prayers.

Response by Janet in Maryland on July 23rd, 2007 at 9:09 pm
Fran, please always keep in mind Proverbs 16:9. “In his heart a man plans his course, but the Lord determines his steps.” Your husband may file for divorce. The divorce may even be granted but we know one thing, God purpose is what will prevail. We know as a fact that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). God loves restoration so put your trust in Him and His word. He will see you through and will restore to you all the locusts have eaten. I am happy to see you have your joy back. That is God’s will for you. Always remember what God did for Bob and Charlyne at Rejoice Marriage Ministries. After their divorce God made them know that was not the plans He had for them. His plan and purpose will always prevail. What He does for one, He will do for all. Be blessed, my dear, God is still in control.

Response by Paula on July 23rd, 2007 at 10:17 pm
Fran, sweetie. I certainly understand, but be still and know God is GOD! I think something great must be on the horizon, because I too like many others, have been under attack emotionally. But, I’m convinced that given the fact God hates divorce, we should ask him daily to defend and protect our marriage and trust him for the outcome! God is in CONTROL! thank you for sharing your testimony with us. As usual, it has blessed and encouraged me!

A Very Timely Message from Bill and Marsha Burns! – by Linda Wattu

Since so many of us seem to be struggling with different issues these days, we all need to realize just who our enemy is and that WE ARE VICTORIOUS IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST! BUT we can’t and won’t walk in that victory as long as we remain focused on the work of the devil instead of magnifying and glorifying the power and promise of God’s Word! We are who we SAY we are and we will have what we SAY we will have, but we have to rely on the JOY of our salvation for the strength we need in ALL circumstances!

So the following message from Bill and Marsha Burns today is indeed timely for all of us! If you don’t receive their daily email messages yet, I strongly suggest that you sign up for them, which you can do at this link. And here’s their awesome message for today:

“Spirit of Prophecy Bulletin

The Trumpet by Bill Burns
— July 23, 2007: Take up the sword of the Spirit and cut off the head of the serpent. Cut off his head before he strikes. But, if he has already struck, be like My servant Paul who unfastened the serpent and dropped it in the fire. Come forth in this season of victory. It has been spoken that you are in a season of warfare, but warfare always lead to victory in My people. If you are in My camp, you win. I am the Lord of Hosts, and as you go forth to fight the good fight of faith I will send My warring angels to fight on your behalf and even beside you, says the Lord. These are the days of the overcomer when you can overcome things that you have been unable to conquer even until now. These are also the days of the restoration of all things — restoration of the power of the kingdom and the blessings of the kingdom. I am the King of the kingdom, and I will establish that which is rightfully Mine among My people. Rejoice for surely you shall have the victory.

Small Straws In A Soft Wind by Marsha Burns
– July 23, 2007: Beloved, you cannot fight the good fight of faith and maintain the mentality of the victim. You cannot be victorious and be the victim at the same time, for this puts you in the position of being double- minded. And, the double-minded man gets nothing. Make up your mind, for you must establish yourself in faith so that you absolutely know that you have the victory before you ever engage in battle, says the Lord.
James 1:6-8 But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.”

Response by Fran on July 23rd, 2007 at 11:08 am
Thanks Linda. I really needed that. I need to get on their list. Fran

Response by Christy on July 23rd, 2007 at 11:28 am
I am on their list, but have not had time to read it this morning so thanks for posting it. I can’t wait for it all to come to pass.

Response by Maria on July 23rd, 2007 at 11:57 am
Linda, I received the same this morning and was stunned. I couldn’t quite understand “Take up the sword of the Spirit and cut off the head of the serpent. Cut off his head before he strikes. But, if he has already struck, be like My servant Paul who unfastened the serpent and dropped it in the fire.” How do we do it in practical terms in our circumstances? Some examples, please. Thanks, Maria

Response by Christy on July 23rd, 2007 at 12:28 pm
If I’m wrong, Linda, correct me, but I took that passage to mean this: the serpent is the attack on my marriage. The head should be cut off before it strikes (by being a godly wife). But it has already struck because I didn’t “cut off the head” and become a godly wife long ago, so since it has struck, I am to fight it and beat the serpent back “into the fire” until I have won my battle. But I could be wrong. Bill Burns could mean something entirely different. Or he could mean for it to speak to each of us differently. I guess the serpent would be any spiritual battle. Am I way off or on the mark? Thanks

Response by Linda Wattu on July 23rd, 2007 at 1:08 pm
Not much time to respond right now, but the Word is the sword of the Spirit - speak the Word to your circumstances! The serpent is the devil!

Response by Thursa on July 23rd, 2007 at 1:25 pm
I like your response Christy! I think it can apply to each of us differently, but the underlying message of speaking the Word in defense and claiming the promises of the Word is the sword we have to send Satan (the serpent) packing and throw him right into the fire!!! Most recently I can see Linda’s testimony of her illness and how it had already struck, but she used God’s Word (her sword) to cut off the head of the ugly serpent while she was in the ER and was quoting “I can do all things through Christ Jesus….”!!!

Response by Christy on July 23rd, 2007 at 1:38 pm
Works for me! I wasn’t sure I was right - just guessing. That’s just how I took it as I read it. The word seems very logical.

Response by Maria on July 23rd, 2007 at 2:16 pm
Christy, sounds good to me. Thanks for your explanation.

Response by Linda Wattu on July 23rd, 2007 at 5:02 pm
Just a couple of scripture references to the Word as the Sword of the Spirit, because the only opinion that matters is God’s Word, and this is what it says, and what I’m sure Bill Burns meant. But it can be applied to practical situations, as you suggested, Christy. And Thursa’s example of how I used it in the ER is a very good example.

Ephesians 6:17
Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.
(Read in full context of Ephesians 6:12-18 – about putting on the whole armor of God)

And this one gives more insight to how the Word is used like a sword::
Hebrews 4:12
For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.

But the point is that even after the serpent does strike, we don’t have to suffer any ill effects, which we see by reading about the incident Bill was referring to in Acts 28:1-7 I don’t know just where it is, but there is somewhere in Acts (I think) where it says that we won’t be harmed by serpents and a host of other stuff. Maybe someone else knows where that is.

Response by Sharon on July 23rd, 2007 at 11:26 pm
Linda, this post speaks directly to some issues that I have to face today. Thank you for posting this to remind me that I am in the midst of a spiritual warfare and MUST use the sword of the spirit to be victorious!

Waiting Patiently – by Christy

Well, per SNO’s plan, I should have moved this weekend. But as Saturday approached, he never brought it up until Wednesday and said that since we had some neighbors on vacation, we would wait until this coming weekend (the 27th and 28th) to move my things, but said that I would stay behind with a few of my clothes and personal things for another week until we had a chance to talk to our neighbors about this. So, SNO has delayed things once again. Also there was a delay on my bathroom flooring by 5 days and it won’t be in before then. I am thankful for the delays. I have no idea what they mean, but it’s just that much longer to be with my husband; and maybe more time for God to change SNO’s mind. And maybe it’s more time for him to realize that he misses me more when I’m gone. I don’t know. I’m trying not to lean on my own understanding, because it doesn’t matter what I’m thinking anyway. I wonder if SNO is having a harder time with my move than he lets on, and maybe he isn’t ready to let go. Maybe he is just being nice, since he knows I don’t want to move without saying goodbye to everyone. There I go again trying to figure it out. But it doesn’t matter what I imagine; it’s all God’s plan. He knows what’s going on with SNO, why the flooring is late, and everything and anything else. I’m not praying for delays; I’m praying for a “suddenly” just before I am to move. I am trying to have a good attitude about either: staying or moving. It’s hard to be positive about the move though, because I don’t want to, but I try to tell myself that it would be time alone to grow, actually date my husband, and I’d be moving to a house with a huge tree and plenty of birds and squirrels to feed, which I love. That’s what I try to think about when SNO mentions my move.

Even though it’s hard not to think about the what, how, why, when, etc.; that’s just leaning on our own understanding when we do that. But it’s hard not to think about it when you’re praying about it all day! I’m sure all of you have been there - playing that ping-pong game in your head! But I praise God for his plan, because I trust it’s a good one!

Thanks to all of you for your support.
Christy

Response by Maria on July 23rd, 2007 at 12:26 pm
Christy, you were so patient lately and you came such a long way with your praises in spite of what is going on in your life. You are so faithful and trusting, obeying and waiting. And God will reward all this in due time. May He continue to strengthen you and uphold you in His arms. As you say, you don’t know about all the delays at hand, but you are praising Him and He will show the reasons why in the end. Glad SNO is considering waiting for your neighbors to come back from their vacation, whatever that would mean in the language that we don’t understand. I am sure God knows exactly and we have to trust Him for that. Your new house seems like a paradise with all the nature surrounding it. You deserve your rest and perhaps God wants you there while He is working on SNO. Perhaps you do have to go so that SNO is going to miss you more than he can imagine now. I bet he will be around your place more than his. Just imagine the most fantastic things that will happen as a result of this. Just continue to do what you are doing, because you are covered by His blood and your are safe and sound in His loving arms.

Response by Thursa on July 23rd, 2007 at 1:37 pm
Christy, I am sure each and every one of us has dealt with the ping-pongs in our head! And the way we overcome them is to do just as you said and give all our “what ifs” to God! There’s a line in a country song that says “if you want to make God laugh, tell Him YOUR plans.” He has you so covered in so many ways, it is impossible to even think of understanding what His God glorifying plan is! You can just be assured it WILL bring Him glory and He will fulfill the promises He has given you, one of which is a completely restored marriage!!!

One of my devotions from Streams in the Desert this weekend dealt with waiting. And as I read your post, it was recalled to me. The gist of it was God being the Great Gardener! He has planted all of these seeds and is properly watering and growing them! His plan is to pick them at the precise moment that will bring Him the most glory! He has to let them mature where they will fully bloom; not just barely shine and then wither away! His careful tending is the best!!! We are simply to wait and know that He does know far more about it all than we could even imagine! As our purpose is to bring Him glory, it should be a joyous thought to know that He is taking the careful loving attention to use US to bring about an even brighter glory story for Him! Keep praising Him and have the strength and confidence in what you mentioned earlier, that He has chosen US to do such a wonderful thing!!! He’s not going to let you down, Christy, wherever you may be living, God will completely restore your and SNO’s marriage!!! Cast all your cares and anxieties on Him and ask that He give you the rest and confidence that He continues to grow and mature in you already!!!

Response by Fran on July 23rd, 2007 at 3:05 pm
Christy, none of us know what He has in store for us or what plans He has for bringing His plans about. I see a change in you from just a week ago. You seem to have such peace about things and that is a good place to be. I was there and I am getting back to it. Your post is very encouraging to me as well.

That old devil is running and hiding for cover. He didn’t know who he was messing with. We are children of the Most High. We are covered. Be blessed and continue to rest in Him. Fran

Response by Linda Wattu on July 23rd, 2007 at 4:08 pm
AMEN, Fran!!! The devil can look out, he’s about to lose his head! whack! Whack! I’ve certainly had enough of him in my life and I think it’s high time we all do EXACTLY what the Burns’ told us to do this morning and take back everything the devil has tried to steal, kill and destroy, and we do that by SPEAKING out loud the Word of God! And the devil will do the exact same thing He did when Jesus did that to him - he tucked his tail between his legs and high tailed it out of there!!! It’s difficult to have a more powerful illustration of God’s faithfulness to do the totally unexpected when we are faith filled and obedient than Robin’s testimony of what happened when she submitted and signed the divorce papers SNO wanted her to sign! And that’s just the beginning and not the end! Like she said, we need to understand that instead of signing a death certificate, we’re actually signing a birth certificate! I loved that, by the way, Robin! And just go back and look at Robin’s post from the prior week and look what God has done since then! And Robin didn’t even tell you all how long it’s been since her husband did anything like that! I bet he’s even trying to figure out what’s going on himself! He’s probably just as surprised as Robin! Now we know why God tells us that a man can’t even understand his own way! (Proverbs 20:24 A man’s steps are directed by the LORD. How then can anyone understand his own way?)

Response by Sasha on July 23rd, 2007 at 7:40 pm
Christy, I have definitely been there with the (ping pong mind) and I praise God for his patience with us. We ask him to teach us to be patient and he does. Look at you, you are doing great. And I think God is giving you an opportunity to show SNO your godliness, and through that, restore your marriage. There are no coincidences and we are in God’s hand. I praise God for what he is doing. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes it may be one hour at a time. Just praise God and enjoy the ride. God definitely has a plan and it is always for our good. I am just amazed of what God is doing in our lives. I see him moving in a great way and your testimony is just more evidence that he is at work. I praise him for what he is doing in you and your marriage. God bless, Sasha.

Response by Janet in Maryland on July 23rd, 2007 at 8:48 pm
Christy, I know exactly what you are feeling with the ping pong mind. Before my husband moved out, he spoke about leaving and needing his space and all the other “I am leaving” stuff. I waited and waited and there was one reason after another for a delay. Then he surprised me and said I am leaving tomorrow and he left. I felt very sad, almost to the point where I thought I just couldn’t do without him. I did not even want to have to get out of bed. It has now been a year and four months since he has left and even though I have had my moments, I am now at peace. I look at this time apart as a time that God is using to help me get my relationship with Him in order. I am sure my Lord first wants me to have a right relationship with Him and He is certainly working that out with me. I have grown so much spiritually since my husband left, and I’m sure that God is working things out in such a way that when my marriage is restored, my husband who is not saved, will be won over to the Lord, just by observing my behavior.

I do not know why God is orchestrating your delays, but we as Christians know that He will use whatever is happening for something good. If indeed you do move, use the time to get closer to God. Feeding your birds and squirrels is an opportunity for you to tell God how great are the works of His hands. The admiration of nature is saying, God you are indeed awesome. He will be pleased with that. God bless you.

Obedience!!!! – by Robin

Whew!!! I signed all the papers. It was a little trying at first because my husband seemed a bit anxious to get me to sign them, and the devil tried to lift his ugly head. But I began saying out loud, “no, I am going to be obedient to God and act in peace, I am not going to let the enemy get any victory here.” I signed all the papers with a smile on my face and I had an unusual peace within my spirit. When I completed signing the papers, I asked my husband to explain to the children what we were discussing. As he was telling them, I interjected, and explained that I didn’t agree with this, because I am standing on the word of God for the restoration of my family. I also stated that I didn’t want to send a legacy of divorce down the generations, and that I was going to continue to pray and believe God for His promise of restoration. My husband quickly replied that if they get into a marriage and their no longer interested, it’s okay to divorce. I waited until he was done and explained that according to the word of God, God hates divorce and He is for marriage. I explained to my husband that I am raising godly children, who will live according to the word of God. After we completed our discussion, he took the papers and placed them in his bag. He then, without any forethought, said, “Let’s go to the movies.” I was folding clothes and looked at him in awe. I took the t-shirt that I was folding and threw it over my face. He then said to me, “are you laughing or crying?” I replied, “I believe that I’m doing a little bit of both.” He simply could not understand; well I don’t understand either! I then asked him if he wanted the kids to come along, and he said, “No, just us.” Well, long story short, we not only went to the movies, but we had dinner, and he’s been at my house all weekend; sleeping on the couch, for now. LOL. I just cannot understand this, but I know who does!!!! It was as if, initially, a big wave had come and knocked me off my feet, but as I began to have my “Peter” experience and trust in the master, I began to walk on water. I don’t know what God is doing, but I trust Him. I thought going through this process was like signing a death certificate, but my trust in God is letting me see that through my trust in Him, I am signing a birth certificate. Saints of the Most High, hold fast to your faith, because eyes have not seen, nor ears have heard, nor has entered into the hearts of men, the things that God has in stored for us. If divorce is a part of the restoration process, although He slay me, yet will I trust Him. Our God is an Awesome God!!!! Love ya all, Robin

Response by Thursa on July 23rd, 2007 at 2:37 pm
Wow Robin!! I can definitely see how you would just about fall over from wondering what was going on! The cool thing is that you can stand on the confidence that God IS in complete control and the whole situation is just as you said, “part of the restoration process!” How wonderful it is that you were able to have such peace in such time of trial AND THEN receive such a blessing to have movie, a dinner and a weekend with your husband! To me it strongly shows how God is the one directing the heart, despite what our spouses may plan!

Response by Christy on July 23rd, 2007 at 2:41 pm
This is great. I know you didn’t want to sign the papers, but when you submitted to your husband, he softened a bit and asked you to the movies, which turned into some sort of weekend retreat on your sofa for him! I guess he didn’t want to leave you - probably because he was attracted to the godly woman standing for her family!!! Keep standing. Even if SNO turns the papers in and the divorce goes through, he won’t be able to keep from hanging out on your sofa. God will cover all your spouse does. Keep your chin up!

Response by Maria on July 23rd, 2007 at 2:46 pm
Robin, that’s a fantastic praise testimony. Thanks for sharing. It reminds me of Diane’s testimony minus the needle. Yours looks more like a movie with the movie, dinner and all weekend together with your husband and the children. It’s such a great gift from God for your obedience to respect your husband and to praise God and give Him all the glory. I thank God for giving you such a peace to handle the trying situation and such a great reward at the end.

Response by Fran on July 23rd, 2007 at 3:01 pm
Robin, this is awesome. Your husband’s heart is softening and I am just in awe of the Lord. You were bold in your speaking and that is a testimony in and of itself. I’ve learned some things from you today. Praise God that you were able to spend the entire weekend with your husband at home. I will continue to pray for you. Remember, we are all blessed and highly favored. We have been chosen by the Most High. Thank you for sharing your praise at a time when I really needed to hear it. Fran

Response by Linda Wattu on July 23rd, 2007 at 3:54 pm
Robin, what an AWESOME praise report! Now who but God could have managed that!!! And this is a perfect example of why we can’t EVER listen to ANYTHING our husbands (or wives) say and why we can’t ever elevate what they do above what our ever faithful God can and will do! You took those thoughts captive, Girl, and you MADE them OBEDIENT to His Word, and God rushed in to do EXACTLY what His Word promises He WILL do! And He will do the exact same thing for all of us if we’ll just trust and obey Him. We need to read Psalm 37:5-6 and Proverbs 3:5-6 over and over a million times a day to make sure we get it! God is NOT a liar and that is EXACTLY what He is going to do, and we know that will NEVER include divorce and the destruction of our families! Talk about His ways being so different and so far above ours - this one would be hard to beat! I just love it and I love the timing of how He is bringing all of these situations together at just the right time! Now, Amy, it’s time for yours!!! And then I’ll have one of the most powerful SOF posts ever! And Suzanne, you had better get yours on record too! I wouldn’t want any of us to miss the power of the Holy Spirit that is flowing through our midst right now, and the surest way to make sure not to do that is to praise His Holy name and give Him all the glory He so richly deserves!

God, you are so awesome and so amazing! How we worship and adore you! I thank you from the bottom of my heart for your love and faithfulness Lord! And I know we are about to see you moving in our midst as NEVER before! I know we’ve been under demonic attack for a reason, but we have prevailed and will continue to prevail and I know we are going to see your power and glory displayed in our midst way beyond anything we could ever ask or imagine! I just can’t wait to see what miraculous things you’re going to do next! We praise your Holy name as we pray for your grace and anointing to always just simply trust and obey you, Lord. And we ask all this in the most precious name in all of heaven and earth, the name of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ! Amen.
Response by Linda Wattu on July 23rd, 2007 at 4:32 pm
By the way, Maria, you have your own praise testimony to share, and yours is starting to look a lot more like Diane’s too! All that “all over the place” and crying! That sounds even more like SNO. And your husband’s attitude toward you is definitely softening! So keep an eye out for the unexpected in your situation too! And don’t forget to post those praises!

Response by Sasha on July 23rd, 2007 at 7:32 pm
God is great and praise God he does not lie and his word is true. Robin, I’m thinking of Jesus’ death; just when the devil thought he had won, our Lord was beginning his journey to resurrection. Supposedly all was ending with your signature, but God had other plans. God is perfect. God allows things to die so he can resurrect them and receive even more glory. I praise God for your testimony. Thank you, God continues to minister to me greatly through you ladies. It’s about faith and obedience. God bless. Sasha

Response by Melissa in Pennsylvania on July 23rd, 2007 at 8:47 pm
Robin, I have to tell you I started to cry; tears literally ran down my face as I read this awesome testimony! That’s a powerful one. As I was reading the beginning, I was thinking your going in the direction of saying that you had peace when you signed the papers. And that alone, would be a great testimony. I mean who really has peace when they sign papers of that nature? But to see where it ended up going was incredible! God is soo good. Robin, I remember reading just a few days ago when you found out about him filing for the “D” word. God granted you such true peace, and rewarded you for trusting in His ways. Praise God!! I am truly blessed just by reading this, because it touched something in my heart. God just showed me how good He is. Only He could have done something like that in a time that was so painful! Thank you for sharing!

Response by Amy on July 23rd, 2007 at 9:28 pm
Robin!!!! I can only imagine how hard it was to be obedient in this situation, but with His help you pulled it off and look at the blessings that our wonderful Lord is raining down on you! It is all God! Stay strong, because He is bringing your hubby home for good!

Response by Paula on July 23rd, 2007 at 10:01 pm
Robin!! This is one of the most awesome praise reports I’ve ever heard! God is so awesome and faithful! This has certainly encouraged me to hang on and believe God despite what happens.

Response by Sharon on July 23rd, 2007 at 11:22 pm
Robin, God will definitely bless you for being obedient. He has this situation in control, and he will definitely strengthen you and continue to give you peace as he takes control of this situation! Be Blessed!

Center>Praises and Prayer Request – Name Omitted

God showed me yet again last night that He IS working in my husband. As I have said before, the past couple of weeks have been pretty dim looking. But I have continued to keep my faith in God and refused to look at things as they appeared to be, and instead kept my focus on God.

Last night I had to talk to SNO before the kids spoke to him at prayer time, because I have been having a rough time with them since we moved here. Their behavior has not been so great, and they’ve gotten a lot worse recently. So I asked him if he would speak to the kids about it, which he did. My son completely ignored him as he was speaking to him, so he got to see first hand what I was talking about. I think he did make some sort of impact on our daughter though, because she was definitely a bit different today. After he said their prayers with them, we talked some more and he said that he was offered a job that pays great and he seemed to really like the man. He was supposed to start today, but I have not heard from him yet today, which is actually a great sign that he is working! He also mentioned more than once last night and in the past few days, that he is under a lot of stress. He kept blaming it on money, but I knew it was more.

Then SNO called around 1:30am this morning. The conversation started out a bit funky, since his excuse for calling wasn’t too good. But it didn’t take long to understand why he truly called. He had been out all night searching for his mother, who had called him to come pick her up. Long story short, his mother has made decisions in her life that have made her life very difficult. He never did find her, and as he was telling me what happened, he finally broke down. And I praise God for what I ended up hearing from him. He realized last night, that he had in fact become just like his parents. And he said that’s exactly what he didn’t want. He also admitted that his life was spinning out of control and he didn’t know how to stop it. He even said that he was unhappy with every part of his life at this point. He also said that he knew that one of the reasons the children were behaving the way they are is because he is not here to enforce the rules. And he said That popping in and out the way he does was something his parents did and it was wrong. Two things he continued to repeat throughout our conversation was that he was so tired and it was just so hard. And he was crying the entire conversation. He was acknowledging quite a bit, but I could tell that he had no clue what to do about any of it. I have known that he was lost this entire time, and I praise God that SNO saw it last night too. But after awhile, he wanted off the phone. He was becoming extremely upset and it seemed he did not want me to hear any more of it. As we were getting off the phone, I felt like God was telling me that he needed to hear that he was loved. So I told him. As soon as I said the words “I love you, SNO.” he broke down to the point that he had to rush off the phone.

As I said, I haven’t heard from him yet today, and I am excited to hear about his new job. I know he might not say a word about our talk last night, and that is fine, because God has already shown me that He is indeed working in my husband, and that is all I need to know.

So I ask for your prayers that SNO would continue to see these things and that he would start to take action and not just talk, because we have all talked the talk before walking the walk! Please send your prayers his way, because he is definitely fighting a battle that can only be won through the power of God.

Response by Linda Wattu on July 23rd, 2007 at 6:36 pm
MNO, this is a very significant praise report. When our spouses are saying that they are tired and it’s too hard, they really are close to coming home. and it’s very significant that he’s seeing and even acknowledging that his kids are suffering the consequences of his choices. Yes, Honey, he is just looking for a way out of the trap Satan has used to ensnare him, so focus your prayers on God showing him the way of escape we know He has already provided. I can truly see the hand of God in all of this, especially the timing for everything. SNO has so little contact with his mom, and then all of a sudden, just when he is finally getting a job, he hears from her and she asks for his help in a situation that revealed himself to himself as NOTHING anyone else could ever say or do would have ever done.. Trust me, that is God in action! And without knowing any of that was going on (the job offer or the thing that happened later with his mom), you just happened to pick that particular night to ask him to speak to the children because of the discipline problems you’re having? No, Honey, that is without a doubt, God at work. And SNO is without a doubt finally coming to the end of himself and starting to face the reality of the mess he has made of his life, and that he has dragged you and the kids right into the mess with him. And God will use the income he will have now to make the way of escape and to make it possible for him to get ahome for ALL of you. He just wasn’t ready to make that choice before, MNO, and now he is. God knew it wouldn’t have worked before, and that’s why he closed all of the doors up to this point. So just keep doing what you’ve been doing, Honey, because it doesn’t look like it will be much longer before your marriage and family are restored for the glory of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, which we claim in His name and authority!

Response by Sasha on July 23rd, 2007 at 7:24 pm
MNO, this is awesome; God’s promises and blessings are manifesting. I am so excited for you. that SNO is recognizing his present state and telling you about it, is a major breakthrough. I will definitely keep SNO in my prayers. Sasha

Response by Melissa in Pennsylvania on July 23rd, 2007 at 8:13 pm
Oh, MNO, how wonderful! Not that SNO is suffering, as I am sure it’s difficult to hear, but that he is no longer blind to the situation he is in. God has given him eyes to see, and ears to hear! He IS working on restoring each one of our families everyday. Keep praying, praising, and claiming your promises. Restoration is near for you, sweetie. God is the only one who truly knows when, but when He makes His move, nothing stands in His way. We all have to stay in the word as much as we can, because scriptures tell us that the enemy works hard on us when we are close to our miracles. Be blessed, MNO, your family is on its way to restoration.

Response by Lisa on July 23rd, 2007 at 10:34 pm
MNO, this is indeed truly a great step toward restoration! I will continue to pray for you and your family and that the Lord will continue to manifest a miracle and bring SNO to repentance and bring him home in His perfect timing. Be encouraged! He is truly working it all out right before your eyes! Lisa

Lots of Praises – Name Omitted

I am so pleased that Linda is back on her feet and coming around fast. May God continue to heal her and disperse the very last trace of the dye from her system. I also pray that the “false” cyst behind the pancreas is not only false, but nonexistent as well! All this was for a reason, because so many breakthroughs happened this weekend. Praise the Lord.

I have been looking a lot at Diane’s praises from way back in January lately, and have spotted so many similar happenings in my life. For example, my husband visited my daughter last week, who is recovering from infection after surgery. Apparently, he stayed for several hours, and was all over the place emotionally, which sure sounds familiar. He was basically upset, because none of our children want to embrace the NCP, so much unlike his family. Then he said that they no longer attend church since their involvement in the church was rejected by the pastor. But apart from that, they are very happy.

At the moment we are checking into me getting a mortgage to buy this place, but I have already been rejected by one broker already. Praise the Lord. One more shot to go. And since my son would prefer that my husband not visit our grandchildren at their house, I offered to let him visit them here instead, now that I am babysitting them all day every Saturday. He thanked me and said that he is going to consider the offer. So I pray that he will accept the offer.

I am so grateful for the things that are coming along and praise God for whatever is happening. Your encouragement and kind words and cheering are very soothing. I still need a lot of coaching about reading between the lines and thank God that Linda is better at it. We just have to continue to praise the Lord and give Him all the honor and glory.

I also observed a yellow zebra finch on her favourite fragile twig. She was eating something and coming towards the top and I was expecting her to lose her balance and fall. But at just the right time, she noticed my dog and flew off. She was flying joyfully all around, with not a care in the world; just rejoicing and flapping her beautiful wings in the air. If she was so happy and carefree in spite of the danger; why are we so fearful and troubled, I wonder.

Response by Christy on July 24th, 2007 at 12:28 pm
Well, about a billion thoughts come to mind on this. The biggest is the fact that your husband being “all over the place emotionally” tells me he isn’t that happy with his life. Oh, I’m sure the fact that his own children won’t accept the NCP is why he was so upset, but if he were soooo super happy, he would accept the fact that his grown children felt that way and not worry about it. Let me explain a bit more; if he were so happy and sure it was “meant to be” with the NCP, he would know in his heart, that his children would eventually come around - if this new relationship was ordained by God. But he is so upset by the reactions of his children that it’s caused him to stop and think about the situation and wonder if she is really right for him. I have no idea if she has “turned bitter as wormwood” yet, but I would guess not, since he says he’s happy. I would imagine the fact that the children are unaccepting of the NCP will cause her to turn bitter quickly. Often the other woman is very emphatic that she be accepted by all and “replace” the covenant wife. I almost don’t like declaring that, because I have not gone through that first hand, but I have actually witnessed this with four friends of mine who all had the same issues with the NCP. They all saw the NCP grow jealous and hateful, because the man had to make choices. Basically, what I am trying to say is that she will eventually get tired of SNO having to choose between her or his children. In one of my friend’s situation, the NCP ended up really resenting the fact he even had kids at all and left. And it may come down to this for SNO with : you being so gracious as to let him see his grandchildren when you watch them. When the NCP starts giving him grief about standing up to his children for her (which I believe she will do), and then you’re there letting him see his grandchildren; being understanding, supportive and a friend to him when he will need one, there won’t be any doubt as to who he will want to be with. Of course, this is just what I see based on what you’ve said and what I’ve seen friends go through. Even if I’m wrong about the specifics, God is working in your husband or he wouldn’t have been so emotional. He is only trying to convince himself right now that his relationship is good. But down deep, he knows the truth.

Keep hanging in there. Keep being kind and helpful to your husband. He will see this and it will draw him to you. And I hope he accepts the offer to come and visit on Saturdays!

Response by Thursa on July 24th, 2007 at 4:42 pm
Yes MNO! Praise God He is bringing about full health restoration in Linda!!! Thanks for starting your praise that way!

I also love the way you use the things in nature that God reveals to you! I pray that you would be able to fly as that zebra finch does! Fly with the confidence and grace of our Dear Lord as the wind under your wings!!! She is so happy and carefree because she looks not to her circumstances but only on confidence in her Maker!!!

And one comment stood out to me, “apart from that, they are happy”. Yah right!!! That is what SNO wants everyone to think. But as you have been seeing and sharing, he is softening and he will soon be returning to you!!! I Praise God with you in all the work He is doing in your marriage and I thank and Praise Him for your complete restoration as we watch it completely manifest!!!!

Coming Undone – Name Omitted

Over this past weekend, SNO and I had a few moments to speak again. He doesn’t let the NCP know we talk at all, and when we do talk and she is around, the conversation is 30 seconds or less. But SNO called me on Saturday night around midnight to let me know that he and the NCP were in yet another fight. He explained that they are always arguing and she even “threatened” him a few days before and said that she was going to bring all of his stuff here to my house! He also revealed that in one argument, he walked to a nearby park and she questioned him and implied that he was going to meet me there, which was not the case. And she also got physical with him in another argument. These are not true praises, but the confessions and consequences of an unblessed union. I wanted so bad to blurt out on the phone, “Baby, come home!” But God hasn’t given me the okay to say that. I remember that it wasn’t until Gomer realized she was better off with her husband than where she was; before God could speak tenderly to her, and transform her valley of trouble into a gateway of hope.

SNO also revealed that on the 24th, which is our son’s birthday, they will be in court concerning eviction from the apartment they live in, and I had no idea that court date would come up so fast; the landlord asked him to leave by June 30th. So I see his troubles are deep.

Sin promises so much freedom, but what does it deliver? Captivity, slavery, bondage, distress, and a whirlwind of troubles. But it hurts me to see my husband in such pain. That’s not to say that I would be happy if I knew they were; because that’s not the case either. I guess I just wish he knew how good it would feel to come home. So I am praying deeply for God to speak to him through signs, dreams, and memories to bring his mind, heart and footsteps home.

I do see Gods hand at work. He is undoing all that has been done to create this adulterous relationship. And I see God separating and breaking all soul ties between the two of them. I just have to be careful not to interpret God’s plan, as that would be relying on my own understanding as Christy pointed out earlier today. I know the end result is a restored marriage; that’s God’s promise, but the exact how, and when are not up to me to piece together.

In prayer today, I told the Lord I felt like I was in a fog, but in a good way. I could see some of what he was doing, but even at a short distance away, I couldn’t see it all. And in the same way a fog seems so thick one minute, and disappears another, so God will allow me to see clearly and experience all he has for our family.

Response by Linda Wattu on July 24th, 2007 at 1:34 am
Yes, MNO , it is never pleasant or easy to see the consequences of sin come to fruition in the lives of our spouses, but that is exactly what God’s Word tells us WILL happen, so when we do see it, we can rest assured that the end is coming! And if ever there was a situation in our midst that requires a quick resolution, Honey, it is yours! So let’s praise the Lord for His faithfulness and claim the full and complete restoration of your marriage and that SNO will in fact come to the end of himself and return to you and the kids SOON. In fact, there’s nothing wrong with tomorrow (today now!), especially since that has been your heart’s desire!

I think SNO is soon coming to that point of realizing that he was so much better off before than where he is now and he is certainly realizing that sin’s pleasure lasts for only a season, and that season is fast coming to an end! I didn’t share this with you at the time, or at least I don’t think I did, but when you said SNO had quit his job, I felt in my spirit that he did that as a way of escape from the NCP! Of course, that didn’t make much sense to me at the time, but now it does!

I don’t know if you’re familiar with Paul and Judy Rousseau’s testimony, but if I remember correctly, the NCP he was involved with got physical too, and there just aren’t too many men who are going to stay with a woman who gets physically violent. How true God’s Word is! She has become bitter as gall and as sharp as a double-edged sword, just as Proverbs 5:3-5warns: For the lips of an adulteress drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil; but in the end she is bitter as gall, sharp as a double-edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave.

Dear Lord, we ask for your intervention and that you will bring conviction to SNO that the life he has chosen is wrong and sinful in your eyes, and that you will give him the courage to walk away from it and to go back to his wife and family. Lord, MNO needs help now and every door we’ve tried to open seems to be closed, so we know that means you have another plan. So I ask for quick intervention, Lord, and that you will act speedily to bring about the full and complete restoration of this marriage and family. And, Lord, we know there is another child involved now, and we don’t know how all of that will be resolved, but we also know that SNO’s obligation and responsibility there does not supersede or invalidate his responsibility and obligation to his wife and legitimate children. So we pray for your protection for the NCP and her unborn child, Lord, and we pray for their provision and thank you that you and you alone can and will make a way where there seems to be no way. And in this case, that’s the only thing we can rely on. We know this woman and SNO need a relationship with you, Lord, so we ask you to draw them by the power of the Holy Spirit to salvation and deliverance from the lifestyle they have chosen for themselves and their child. And we ask for your mercy on them, Lord, and that you will bring the husband you have planned for this woman into her life and that he will be a godly man and a good step father for her baby. And I pray for you to give NO the grace and strength she needs, Lord, and the wisdom to know how to follow your lead. The complexities of man’s sin is certainly not new to you, Lord, and the ability to make something good and glorious of the messes we create is not new to you either. And we know that in accordance with your promise in Isaiah 55, you will turn this situation into something for the everlasting renown of Jesus Christ, and that MNO and her family will go forth in peace and joy! We love you and look forward to seeing your will manifested in this marriage and family for your glory. And I ask all this in the name and authority of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior! Amen.

Response by Sasha on July 24th, 2007 at 7:20 am
MNO, I praise God for his faithfulness. I see again and again what trusting God can do. God is orchestrating everything. Thank you for being an example and allowing God to be glorified in your life. I agree with you in prayer for SNO and declare victory over the situation. If God is for you who can be against you. Sasha

Response by Lisa on July 24th, 2007 at 9:49 am
God is so faithful and I just praise him for moving in a most high way in your situation and circumstance. You are truly blessed to have such strength and peace in the Lord! I am praying for you and your wayward spouse and I pray that He brings His will about speedily and works everything for the good as He states He will in the word! God bless you, Lisa

Response by Thursa on July 24th, 2007 at 4:31 pm
Thank you for sharing, MNO! It is hard to see the roads our spouses choose to travel! But the wonderful thing is to know that God has given you a promise of complete marriage restoration and He will go after the one lost sheep and bring him home! So keep your eyes steadfast on our wonderful God and keep praising Him as you have! He will continue to bless you. Your son and your entire family our in my thoughts and prayers today!

Response by Christy on July 24th, 2007 at 7:19 pm
MNO, I am sure it is very hard to see the man you love hurting that way. But, like Linda said, the Bible said this would happen. God’s word would ring true eventually. It’s bittersweet, isn’t it? In one way, you are glad God’s promises are kept and I’m sure you are glad to have proof once again that His word is true. But you also don’t want SNO hurting - or anyone for that matter. Don’t worry though. God will take care of SNO. He will return safely to you soon. I agree with Linda that it sure looks as though a swift resolution is required. Just a little while longer… hang in there. I will be praying for SNO and for the Lord to be speaking to him about going home!

Sometimes Obeying God Is Not Easy, but It Is ALWAYS Best! — by Dan Spitz

Monday, July 23rd, 2007

The sermon at church yesterday morning was “When Obeying God Seems Dumb.” My minister’s main point was that doing what God wants is not always easy, but it is certainly best, and his sermon was based on two stories; that of Abraham willing to sacrifice Isaac and the story of Eric Liddell’s historical Olympic experience.

If you’ve seen the movie Chariots of Fire, you may have been thrilled by Eric Liddell’s stand for principle, which clearly jeopardized his chance to win an Olympic Gold Medal, because the 100 meters was his best race. But he dropped out of that event, rather than run on Sunday. He had a strong spiritual conviction that he shouldn’t run on Sundays, so instead of doing that, he spoke in a Paris church on the day he would have run, using Isaiah 40:31 as the basis for his message, which says But those who trust in the Lord will find new strength. They will soar high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint

So the starting guns popped in the stadium without him on that particular Sunday. Nevertheless, Eric captured an unexpected bronze in the 200-meter and worked his way through the qualifying heats for the 400-meter. But his trial times were not spectacular, and it did not seem he could beat the other fine contenders. Defeat or victory, however, he would accept it. He had told the crowds who came to hear him speak that he did not ever question what God chose to do. “I don’t need explanations from God. I simply believe him and accept whatever comes my way.” The gun cracked. Eric was out of his crouch and running, head tilted back, arms flailing. And if that had been a sprint, he could not have flown faster, and when the finish tape drew taut across his chest, he was five meters ahead of his nearest rival. Eric had won the gold in a record 47.6 seconds!

Then in Genesis 22, we are told that Abraham was asked to give his son Isaac as a sacrifice to God. Obviously that’s a considerably tougher decision to make than the decision Eric Liddell made not to run on Sunday. However, I think when we get down to the basics, honoring and obeying God is what it’s all about. And Abraham certainly obeyed God with a seemingly infinite amount of faith and trust. The scripture says that he told his servants to stay with the donkeys; that he and his boy would go a little farther. He said WE will worship there, and then WE will come right back. He didn’t say I, but we. This shows us that Abraham had a history with God, and he was expecting the same faithfulness from God that he had always received. And when Isaac asked where the sheep was, Abraham responded by telling him that God would provide. Again, Abraham showed his faith in God by knowing that God would work it out. Of course, we know that God intervened at just the right time, and when He called Abraham’s name as he was about to sacrifice his son, he once again simply said ”Here I am.” And the rest of the verses tell us that Abraham was rewarded “because he obeyed.”

I can not imagine having to endure a test of faith like Abraham endured. I can’t even imagine having to injure my child, let alone having to kill him. And I wonder if my conviction about the Sabbath would be as strong as Eric Liddell’s. As we ponder these two situations, lets go to the Lord, because we have scripture after scripture proving that God supports our stand for marriage restoration. And we have just as much scripture, if not more, promising that God will answer our prayers. As we have discussed before, most of us have no reservations that God will indeed restore our marriages. So the question is whether or not we will obey Him as we wait for Him to change us and the hearts of our spouses. Will we resist the temptations the enemy uses to get us to give up? Do we have the faith and trust that Eric Liddell had when he said “I don’t need explanations from God. I simply believe him and accept whatever comes my way.”? Can we approach the task God lays before us with the assurance that Abraham had when he told his servants that he and Isaac would both come back? Will God someday be able to say to us:
“This is what the Lord says: Because you have obeyed me and have not withheld even your son, your only son, I swear by my own name that I will certainly bless you. I will multiply your descendants[a] beyond number, like the stars in the sky and the sand on the seashore. Your descendants will conquer the cities of their enemies. And through your descendants all the nations of the earth will be blessed—all because you have obeyed me.”? (Genesis 22:16-18 - NLT)

May we be obedient to our Father as we wait upon Him and may we know that He provides everything we need as we wait. Blessings!

Genesis 22 (NLT)
1 Some time later, God tested Abraham’s faith. “Abraham!” God called.
“Yes,” he replied. “Here I am.”
2 “Take your son, your only son—yes, Isaac, whom you love so much—and go to the land of Moriah. Go and sacrifice him as a burnt offering on one of the mountains, which I will show you.”
3 The next morning Abraham got up early. He saddled his donkey and took two of his servants with him, along with his son, Isaac. Then he chopped wood for a fire for a burnt offering and set out for the place God had told him about.
4 On the third day of their journey, Abraham looked up and saw the place in the distance.
5 “Stay here with the donkey,” Abraham told the servants. “The boy and I will travel a little farther. We will worship there, and then we will come right back.”
6 So Abraham placed the wood for the burnt offering on Isaac’s shoulders, while he himself carried the fire and the knife. As the two of them walked on together,
7 Isaac turned to Abraham and said, “Father?”
“Yes, my son?” Abraham replied.
“We have the fire and the wood,” the boy said, “but where is the sheep for the burnt offering?”
8 “God will provide a sheep for the burnt offering, my son,” Abraham answered. And they both walked on together.
9 When they arrived at the place where God had told him to go, Abraham built an altar and arranged the wood on it. Then he tied his son, Isaac, and laid him on the altar on top of the wood.
10 And Abraham picked up the knife to kill his son as a sacrifice.
11 At that moment the angel of the Lord called to him from heaven, “Abraham! Abraham!” “Yes,” Abraham replied. “Here I am!”
12 “Don’t lay a hand on the boy!” the angel said. “Do not hurt him in any way, for now I know that you truly fear God. You have not withheld from me even your son, your only son.”
13 Then Abraham looked up and saw a ram caught by its horns in a thicket. So he took the ram and sacrificed it as a burnt offering in place of his son.
14 Abraham named the place Yahweh-Yireh (which means “the Lord will provide”). To this day, people still use that name as a proverb: “On the mountain of the Lord it will be provided.”
15 Then the angel of the Lord called again to Abraham from heaven.
16 “This is what the Lord says: Because you have obeyed me and have not withheld even your son, your only son, I swear by my own name that
17 I will certainly bless you. I will multiply your descendants[a] beyond number, like the stars in the sky and the sand on the seashore. Your descendants will conquer the cities of their enemies.
18 And through your descendants all the nations of the earth will be blessed—all because you have obeyed me.”

Confidently Waiting with Faith and Patience

Friday, July 20th, 2007

Waiting and trusting God to act on our behalf as we stand for the restoration of our marriages continues to be the topic of quite a bit of discussion on the private websites, so I wanted to share two Heart To Heart messages posted on the private sites yesterday, because I’m sure they will bless and encourage anyone standing for marriage restoration, especially those who are really struggling. Here’s the message Dan posted yesterday, which I know will be a great blessing and very encouraging!

Peace Leads to Patience

I always get fired up when I read a new book, and I just finished reading Rick Warren’s book, God’s Power to Change Your Life. And I would highly recommend reading it if you get a chance. It’s about the “fruits of the spirit” and I want to share what he has to say concerning patience, which he connects to our faith. I found it very powerful, especially in terms of our faith in God and believing that He is working to restore our marriages. (All the scripture references are listed at the end.)

He begins by saying that a lack of peace causes impatience. When we have peace in our heart, almost nothing can make us impatient. But, on the other hand, when we don’t have peace, almost anything can make us impatient. Rick uses Proverbs 20:24 to make the point that we may experience some divine delays and some heavenly interruptions! And I love that description…they’re not setbacks, not obstacles, not problems, but divine delays and heavenly interruptions. That statement tells us God always has everything under control; he is not burdened or hindered by our human frailties and obstacles.

He continues by sharing that throughout the Bible, God equates patience with maturity. Proverbs 14:29 says maturity involves the ability to wait, to live with delayed gratification. A person of understanding and wisdom, who sees life from God’s point of view, can be patient. I know when I am in the Word, whether it is hearing it, reading it, praying it, or sharing it in writing I am at peace. It is during these times I find I am most patient with my circumstances, because that’s when I’m confident that God has orchestrated everything to happen according to His perfect plan.

Warren describes four areas in which we can become patient and enjoy the peace God intends for us. The areas are developing a new perspective, acquiring a sense of humor, deepening our love, and depending on the Lord.

In developing a new perspective, the first area, he suggests that we find a new way of looking at the situation or the person that is causing the problem. The root of impatience is selfishness. So learn to see things from other people’s point of view; look at a situation from the other person’s perspective and discover why that person feels as he or she does. (Proverbs 19:11)

The second area is acquiring a sense of humor. So learn to laugh at your circumstances; somehow find the fun in the frustrating. Humor is a tension dissolver, an antidote to anxiety, a tranquilizer without any troublesome side effects, and a life shock absorber. So learn to laugh; it can preserve your sanity. (Proverbs17: 22)

Thirdly, deepen your love. (1 Corinthians 13:4) When we are impatient, we are being unloving. When we love someone, we care about their needs, desires, hurts, and point of view, and not just our own. And when we are filled with love, almost nothing can provoke us to anger or cause us to be impatient. When we are under pressure, whatever is inside is going to come out. And if we praise God for people or circumstances that irritate us or bother us, we become so much more like Jesus that they won’t bother us anymore. Maybe the devil is even using a person or situation to get at us, but he will stop doing that when the situation motivates us to praise God. If we learn to praise God in every situation, we will develop a wall of praise around our life that even the devil cannot penetrate. So deepen your love. (Ephesians 4:2)

Finally, he shares that patience is not merely a matter of human willpower; it is the fruit of the spirit. Patience is not will power; it is not wearing a mask and pretending. So if it is God’s patience we feel, if it is the genuine fruit of the spirit, we will have genuine peace, and certain situations won’t bother us the way they used to, because we are depending on the Lord.

Warren concludes by saying that patience is a form of faith that says “I trust God. I believe that God is bigger than the problem and I believe that God has His hand in these irritations and can use them in my life for good.” Faith helps us say, “God, what do You want me to learn in this situation?” Because of faith we no longer need to ask God why, but instead, what do you want me to learn. Waiting demonstrates faith, and faith pleases God.

Warren also said that it is hard when we are in a hurry and God isn’t. It is hard waiting for an answer to prayer; waiting for a miracle to happen; waiting for God to change our wife or husband.

So as we wait for God to restore our marriages, which may seem sick, dying, dead, and maybe even over because of a “legal” divorce, we must be mindful of the faith and patience of Noah, Moses, Abraham, Elijah and many others who did wait upon the Lord. And we especially need to remember Lazarus! From all appearances, Jesus arrives too late to save him. He had been dead for several days, prepared, and sealed in a tomb. One’s life can’t get much more over than that! Yet Jesus knew it was not too late. He simply told Lazarus to get up.

John 11:30-43 (NLT)
30 Jesus had stayed outside the village, at the place where Martha met him.
31 When the people who were at the house consoling Mary saw her leave so hastily, they assumed she was going to Lazarus’s grave to weep. So they followed her there.
32 When Mary arrived and saw Jesus, she fell at his feet and said, “Lord, if only you had been here, my brother would not have died.”
33 When Jesus saw her weeping and saw the other people wailing with her, a deep anger welled up within him, and he was deeply troubled.
34 “Where have you put him?” he asked them.
They told him, “Lord, come and see.”
35 Then Jesus wept.
36 The people who were standing nearby said, “See how much he loved him!”
37 But some said, “This man healed a blind man. Couldn’t he have kept Lazarus from dying?”
38 Jesus was still angry as he arrived at the tomb, a cave with a stone rolled across its entrance.
39 “Roll the stone aside,” Jesus told them.
But Martha, the dead man’s sister, protested, “Lord, he has been dead for four days. The smell will be terrible.”
40 Jesus responded, “Didn’t I tell you that you would see God’s glory if you believe?”
41 So they rolled the stone aside. Then Jesus looked up to heaven and said, “Father, thank you for hearing me.
42 You always hear me, but I said it out loud for the sake of all these people standing here, so that they will believe you sent me.”
43 Then Jesus shouted, “Lazarus, come out!”

God is never too late; His timing is perfect. He may not move according to our schedule (He usually doesn’t), but He is always on time. He wants us to trust Him and wait on Him. Psalm 37:7 (NLT) says Be still in the presence of the Lord, and wait patiently for him to act. Don’t worry about evil people who prosper or fret about their wicked schemes.

Father, I pray that You will help us to be patient as we wait on Your promises and help us to receive the fruits of the spirits - all of them- not just patience. God, we want to be like Jesus; help us to have the knowledge and understanding of Your Word so we can use the wisdom You provide as we deepen our love for You and our dependence on You, and surrender every area of our lives to You. In Your Son’s Holy Name, Amen.

Scripture References:

Proverbs 20:24 (NLT)
The Lord directs our steps, so why try to understand everything along the way?

Proverbs 14:29 (NLT)
People with understanding control their anger; a hot temper shows great foolishness.

Proverbs 19:11 (NLT)
Sensible people control their temper; they earn respect by overlooking wrongs.

Proverbs 17:22 (NLT)
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit saps a person’s strength.

1 Corinthians 13:4 (NLT)
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud

Ephesians 4:2 (NLT)
Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love.

And I really loved the following message from the Spirit of Prophecy website, which was shared on the ladies’ private site yesterday. Tammy said she was very encouraged by the message, and it’s easy to see why! What awesome instruction, wisdom and encouragement it provides, so be blessed and encouraged!

“July 18, 2007 Bill Yount - Spirit of Prophecy
CAUTION: “HEAVEN AND HELL ARE BEING ACTIVATED THIS HOUR BY CERTAIN WORDS BEING SPOKEN ON THE EARTH …BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU THINK AND SAY!” (Daniel 10:12) GABRIEL IS STILL ON CALL! Daniel 10:12 “Then said the angel Gabriel unto me, Fear not, Daniel, for from the first day that thou did set thine heart to understand and to chasten thyself before thy God, your ‘words’ were heard and I am come for your ‘words’. YOUR MOUNTAIN WAS PROBABLY MADE OUT OF A MOLEHILL! In a vision I saw a range of gigantic ‘rocky mountains looming tall before God’s people. Our words of fear and doubtful thoughts had caused some of these mountains to grow out of molehills. Hell was pushing them upward against us through even our thoughts that had formed our negative words. These mountains towering before us now represented impossible situations and insurmountable circumstances that we, the Body of Christ had come up against in our walk with the Lord. These mountains stood unmovable in our path as though defying us to go any further. Many in the Body of Christ were standing on the word of God, believing and speaking to the mountains to be removed, persevering for a season until their lack of patience convinced them to lose hope and give up. These mountains seemed to remain steadfast and unchangeable; indifferent to our faith in God’s word to these impossibilities and believing for a miracle. Then as though through a telescopic vision I saw in the Spirit a close up view of these mountains. In the Spirit I saw hair-line cracks coming upon these huge mountains. I then heard the voice of the Lord speak as these cracks appeared…”IS NOT MY WORD LIKE A HAMMER THAT BREAKS THE ROCK IN PIECES?” (Jeremiah 23:29) A remnant of the Body of Christ standing on the word of God, speaking it to these mountains, persevered in their faith and patience though they saw nothing change in the natural. But each time they spoke with authority of God’s word, I saw a spiritual hammer striking each mountain that was spoken to. Following the cracks, I began to see a small piece of rock falling here and there from off of these mountains… perhaps still not visible to the naked eye of the believer below. Line upon line the cracks increased…here a little, there a little….while small pieces of broken off rock were falling. Slowly but surely these mountains were weakening as this hammer gained momentum, pounding these mountains of solid rock relentlessly as though God’s vengeance was in each fatal blow! God’s voice then spoke so loud and clear, shaking the very foundation of these mountains…”IF YOU CAN BREAK A ROCK IN PIECES, YOU CAN MOVE A MOUNTAIN! THESE MOUNTAINS SHALL BE REMOVED BY MY SPIRIT” says the Lord and “IT IS MY ‘WORDS’ THAT ARE SPIRIT AND LIFE!”KEEP MY WORDS IN YOUR MOUTH AND TELL YOUR MOUNTAIN WHERE TO GO!”

Faith is BELIEVING When and What We CAN’T See!

Thursday, July 19th, 2007

One of the greatest challenges, and most rewarding, as we stand for the restoration of our marriages, is believing what we can’t see, when there’s no reasonable or rational reason to believe it! After all, IF there’s reason or evidence that causes us to believe or expect something, no faith is required. And Hebrews 11:6 reveals why this is so important, because it says And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him. And Hebrews 10:38 even says But my righteous one will live by faith. And if he shrinks back, I will not be pleased with him.” So when we’re faced with what appear to be impossible situations, instead of fearing and dreading them, we should welcome them as opportunities to pleas God by demonstrating our trust and faith in Him. Finding ourselves in “impossible” situations is exactly when we can count on the Lord to come through for us, because Jesus said so, as we see in Mark 10:27, which says Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but not with God; all things are possible with God.” And to make sure there’s NO doubt about what God expects when He tells us to have faith, we only have to read Hebrews 11:1, which says Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. And it is by no means just a coincidence that Psalm 119:105 says Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path. , and that Romans 10:17, then says Consequently, faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word of Christ. So we can find our way through dark and difficult times by understanding and relying on God’s Word. And we have Jesus’ assurance that when we do that, He will not leave us to walk in darkness, because John 8:12 says When Jesus spoke again to the people, he said, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” And then in John 12:46, Jesus said I have come into the world as a light, so that no one who believes in me should stay in darkness. So the danger of concluding the outcome of our stand for marriage restoration during times of darkness, is that we will miss out on the awesome promise the Lord gives us in 1 Corinthians 4:5, which says Therefore judge nothing before the appointed time; wait till the Lord comes. He will bring to light what is hidden in darkness and will expose the motives of men’s hearts. At that time each will receive his praise from God. That tells me that if we continue to trust God even when our circumstances look the darkest and the most hopeless, walking by faith and not by sight, WE will receive praise from God! And when, even in our darkest hours, we continue to stand on the power and promise of God’s Word, we fulfill God’s call on our lives as described in 1 Peter 2:9, which says But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.

This past week, there’s been an awful lot of discussion on the private sites about walking through difficult times and putting our faith in God, and God alone, so I appreciate Thursa’s permission to share the following Heart To Heart message, which she posted on the ladies’ site yesterday. And the next time darkness threatens, just remember God’s awesome promise in Psalm 37:4-6, which says Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him and he will do this: He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn, the justice of your cause like the noonday sun. When we remember that, we can’t help being blessed and encouraged!

Walking in the Darkness

I am still reading Calm My Anxious Heart by Linda Dillow. And I have taken my time to read it so that I could absorb certain parts that seem to always come at just the right time! This time I read the section that spoke quite loudly to me after I had already taken a “faith walk” and it confirmed many things that I felt God had been telling me! So I thought I’d share this section as is, because it was very powerful to me, which I hope it will be to you as well, since we are all continuing on our “faith walk” of marriage restoration.

“My problem is that I like light better than darkness. But if I can see what God is doing — how He is working everything together for good — then I don’t need faith. But still I want to see. I think we all have this problem. We say we want more faith, but really what we want is sight. Sight says, “I see that it’s good for me, so God must have sent it, “but faith says, “God sent it, so it must be good for me.” God asks us to walk by faith, not by sight. Faith is walking in the dark with God, holding His hand.

God doesn’t keep us immune from trouble. He says, “I will be with you in trouble.” In the book of Exodus, we find the children of Israel camped by the edge of the Red Sea. It was night, pitch black except for the pillar of fire God had placed between His people and the Egyptians. Can you imagine their fear? The screaming threats of the enemy filtered through the darkness. What would they do when dawn broke? Each mother hugged her child to her breast in fear that this would be their last night.

Who could have imagined the miracle that awaited them? Hidden in the text is the tiny phrase, “All that night the Lord drove the sea back” (Exodus 14:21). While the Israelites were quaking in their boots, the miracle occurred “all that night.” Because it was night, they couldn’t see what the “wind of God” was accomplishing on their behalf. God parted the Red Sea, and they walked on dry ground to freedom.

Perhaps your life is filled with darkness and you can’t see. Still God is working, just as He worked “all that night” for the Israelites. The next day simply manifested what God had done during the night. Do not forget, my friend, that God works in the night of your life, too.”

God is the Source of Life; Not People — by Dan Spitz

Wednesday, July 18th, 2007

In Gary Samlley’s and John Trent’s book, Love Is A Decision, they stress that God must be the number one priority in our lives. When we put God first in every aspect of our lives, He promises to meet all of our needs. Matthew 6:33 (NLT) says Seek the Kingdom of God[a] above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.

But many of us have made our spouses our number one priority instead of God. When we love someone, that is often the case; whether it be our spouse or our children. They are someone we can touch, talk to, see and connect with in our flesh; that’s a human response. As we gain knowledge and understanding of the Word of God, we know that He has to be the priority in our lives, and He does not want anyone to come between us and Him.

Yet, many of us even now, maybe especially now, let our spouse take the top spot in our lives. And until we let God become number one in our lives, we can expect hindrances to our prayers in the restoration of our marriages.

We must get to the point where we experience the spiritual growth described in Ephesians 3:14-21(NLT) as follows:
14 When I think of all this, I fall to my knees and pray to the Father,[a]
15 the Creator of everything in heaven and on earth.[b]
16 I pray that from his glorious, unlimited resources he will empower you with inner strength through his Spirit.
17 Then Christ will make his home in your hearts as you trust in him. Your roots will grow down into God’s love and keep you strong.
18 And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is.
19 May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.
20 Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think.
21 Glory to him in the church and in Christ Jesus through all generations forever and ever! Amen.

Smalley and Trent state that the fundamental problem with expecting fulfillment from people, places, and things is that these are the gifts of life, not the source of life. Any time we expect gifts of life to give us what only God can, we are asking for our cups to be drained of energy and life itself. The source of life comes from God; not people, yet we often look to our friends, family, ministers or books.

They continue to say that the more we place our expectations on another person, the more control we give them over our emotions and spiritual state. And the freer we are of expectations from others, and the more we depend upon God alone, the more pure and honest our love for others will become.

How many of us are miserable because we continue to let our husband/wife have control over our emotions and spiritual state? How many of us know we allow this to happen, but for some reason are not willing to do anything about it. It is a scary thought to let go of our spouses. But we must get to the point where it is a much scarier thought to keep God from doing what He promises to do in our marriages! As long as we hang on to human qualities and reason, we are going to get human results!

But once our expectations for wisdom, love, peace and joy are placed in God and not our spouses, we are finally free to love them unconditionally. Then we will have the strength to keep persistently, and expectantly praying for positive changes to happen in the restoration of our marriages. Repeatedly, we have read on this site that we must let our spouses go, but that does not mean giving up on our marriages. It simply means that we let God be God, and know that HE will ultimately direct them to obedience in Him, which will lead to the victory we are assured - marriage restoration and the healing of our families.

Father God, I pray with all my heart that You will give us the strength, faith and trust in You that will allow us to surrender our husbands/wives, the ones we love so much, to You. Lord, we know You are the only source of life that we seek. Let us be released from our human tendencies to seek refuge in others and to fully trust in You to deliver the promises You have made to restore and heal the covenant marriage to which You were a witness. In the precious name of Jesus, Amen

Sharing Another Awesome Message from Bill and Marsha Burns!

Tuesday, July 17th, 2007

The following message was the Spirit of Phrophecy Bulletin sent by email yesterday, which I’m sure will bless and encourage many! You can access and sign up for these messages and many others at Spirit of Phrophecy website. Now, here’s yesterday’s email message from Bill and Marsha Burns:

Spirit of Prophecy Bulletin

The Trumpet by Bill Burns
— July 16, 2007: I say unto you, My people, arise! These are the days of the restoration of all things. Do you not know that you are the Elijah’s of the end of the age? You are those who bring the freshness of heaven to the earth. You are those that defeat the enemy wherever he is found. I call you now to a place of redeeming the time — the times of sickness, heartache, depression and the times of unrighteousness. I call you to redeem all of these so that you may be well, healthy in body, soul and spirit. Redeem that which the enemy has stolen, the days lost, the days of sorrow, and let them become days of great joy. I am restoring My people to greatness and the demonstration of My power. So, I say again, arise and shake off the dust of weakness and the power of the enemy against you. Come forth in the fullness of the power of My Spirit, says the Lord.

Small Straws In A Soft Wind by Marsha Burns
– July 16, 2007: Exercise your voice, for that is your weapon against the enemy. Many of you, My people, have been silenced through accepting condemnation and rejection designed to intimidate you and shut your mouth. But, now you must arise and use your voice as a sword, your weapon of choice. Speak against the devil and his devices. Resist him and refuse to allow him to violate your spiritual boundaries, and he will be defeated, says the Lord.
Ephesians 6:13-18 Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness, and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God; praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints.

Putting our Isaac on the Alter — by thursa

Tuesday, July 17th, 2007

Last night, my Streams In the Desert devotional gave the Holy Spirit a wonderful opportunity to show me something about God’s glory, which I had not thought of before, so I want to share it.

The devotional referenced Genesis 22:16-18, which was God’s declaration to Abraham that because of his obedience to sacrifice Isaac, his beloved son, God would bless him more than he could ever imagine! The devotional said, “Abraham gave up his one and only son at the Lord’s command and in doing so, all his desires and dreams for Isaac’s life, as well as his own hope for a notable heritage, disappeared. Yet God restored Isaac to his father, and Abraham’s family became ‘as numerous as the stars in the sky and as the sand on the seashore’ (v.17).” Those sentences spoke very loudly to me about our marriage restorations. How many of us, when first faced with this opportunity, were totally devastated, because thoughts of a separation or divorce ruined our hopes and plans for our future? I was totally devastated!!! In Abraham’s case, his son Isaac was truly a promised gift from God; one that he was given after a long wait and one he was so joyous over finally receiving; his long awaited promised blessing. And then God asked him to sacrifice Isaac? Yes He did! Just as with our marriages, which are also blessings from God. God himself made a tri-fold bond with us when He witnessed our marriage vows, so we joyously received our wedding blessing and began planning and living out our futures. Then it was gone? No, it’s not at all gone! God is simply asking us to do just as Abraham did and lay our most precious and blessed gift of marriage on the alter. And He wants us to do that with complete faith that His purpose and plan is greater than anything we ever even dreamed of! Just as the devotional says, “we surrender all our cherished hopes and die to self — then He sends overflowing joy and His ‘life…that [we] might have it more abundantly’ (John 10:10 KJV).” If we lay our marriages on the alter; giving it ALL to God, just as with Abraham, He PROMISES we will have life more abundant!

Right after those first couple of sentences, the devotional then said, “and through his descendants, ‘when the time had fully come, God sent his Son’ (Gal. 4:4).” At first, I overlooked this part of the devotion and even overlooked it in prior studies! It speaks about Jesus and how that through all of the descendants Abraham was blessed with beyond his imagination, Jesus was brought to US! That says to me that had Abraham NOT placed Isaac on the alter, our entire past, present and future may well have been different! So Abraham had a major role in the greatest love story ever told through Jesus’ life. Jesus’ life is also a story that shows the full extent of God’s glory! If we are to do just as Abraham did, and lay our marriages on the alter, we too will play a major role in the future of many generations!!! If we don’t do it, our future descendants may never experience the greatest love story ever told or see the full extent of God’s glory! WOW! God has trusted us with such an awesome God glorifying role!!! NO pressure here, though! It is not like we have to do just as Abraham did and lay out our marriage sacrifice, without knowing what is going to happen! God has given us His word, which is His promise to us! If we will just take that step in faith and lay our marriages on the alter, giving them over to God, He promises that He WILL give them back to us more abundantly; so much more abundantly that we can’t even imagine it!!! Just as with Abraham’s sacrifice, our sacrifice will also show the extent of God’s glory!!!

The devotional wonderfully concluded with everything I was so blessed to realize through Abraham and Isaac’s story:
“The moment of your greatest sacrifice will also be the precise moment of your greatest and most miraculous blessing. God’s river, which never runs dry, will overflow its banks, bringing you a flood of wealth and grace. Indeed, there is nothing God will not do for those who will dare to step out in faith onto what appears to be only a mist. As they take their first step, they will find a rock beneath their feet. F.B. Meyer.”

So as Dan wrote in yesterday’s SOF post, “How many times must God show us His awesome power before we believe?” He’s said it; He’s shown it; and He’s done it!!!! Are we ready to receive the overflowing abundance of God’s blessings and TRUELY place our marriages as a sacrifice on the alter before our Almighty God?

Believing God WILL Restore our Marriages

Monday, July 16th, 2007

I was really touched by a Heart To Heart post, which was shared on the men’s private website last Friday, with a very emotional reaction when I read “How many times must God show us His awesome power before we believe?” That really spoke to something that so often breaks MY heart, because I know it must break the Lord’s heart as well.

I frequently receive calls from standers who are very excited, because they have received a “sign from God” that assures them that He is in fact going to restore their marriages; and it’s even quite often a specific sign requested in prayer! One would think that if we ask God for a very specific sign or feel that we have heard from the Lord that He’s going to do something, the matter would be settled in our hearts, minds and spirits once and for all. But that rarely seems to be the case, and I’m often amazed to see how little time passes before the same people are again calling; filled with doubt, discouragement and little hope, as if that encounter with the Lord had never happened. And even worse, the same thing often happens over and over again with the same people. How that must grieve the heart of God! And it could well hinder or delay the restoration of our marriages. But the good news, as Dan shared, is that we can ask the Lord to help us even in our doubt and unbelief; which He will be ever so faithful to do, just as He did for “doubting Thomas” when He told him to touch His nail scarred hands and put his hand in the hole in His side!

With rare exceptions, usually when people try to “intellectualize the things of God, the only difference between those who have great faith and those who don’t is the amount of time spent seriously reading and studying the Word of God; and that’s confirmed in Romans 10:17, which says Consequently, faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word of Christ. We just can’t win by trying to intellectualize the things of God, which 1 Corinthians 1:17-19 makes very clear, because it says For Christ did not send me to baptize, but to preach the gospel—not with words of human wisdom, lest the cross of Christ be emptied of its power. For the message of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God. For it is written: “I will destroy the wisdom of the wise; the intelligence of the intelligent I will frustrate.”

At some point in our walk with the Lord, and in our stand for marriage restoration, we have to come to the place of realizing that if we can’t stand on the power and promise of God’s Word, we have NOTHING to stand on, and no reason to have hope or the expectation of the restoration of our marriages and families. Psalm 119:105 tells us that God’s Word is a lamp to our feet and a light for our path, so we aren’t likely to find our way to marriage restoration without relying on the light and power of God’s Word to show us each step along the way.

While there are many passages of scripture that make it very clear that God will uphold us as we stand for the restoration of our marriages and that He will NEVER condone adultery or adulterous marriages, one of the most significant is < href=http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=mal%202;&version=51;>Malachi 2, particularly verses 13-17 (NLT), which says:
Here is another thing you do. You cover the Lord’s altar with tears, weeping and groaning because he pays no attention to your offerings and doesn’t accept them with pleasure. You cry out, “Why doesn’t the Lord accept my worship?” I’ll tell you why! Because the Lord witnessed the vows you and your wife made when you were young. But you have been unfaithful to her, though she remained your faithful partner, the wife of your marriage vows. Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth. “For I hate divorce!” says the Lord, the God of Israel. “To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty,” says the Lord of Heaven’s Armies.” So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife.” You have wearied the Lord with your words. “How have we wearied him?” you ask. You have wearied him by saying that all who do evil are good in the Lord’s sight, and he is pleased with them. You have wearied him by asking, “Where is the God of justice?”

How anyone can read Malachi 2 and not understand that God is seriously offended by adultery and divorce, which are indisputable violations of HIS covenant, and will not continue in righteous fellowship with anyone committing either, is beyond comprehension, other than being blind to the truth of God’s Word. And that’s strongly confirmed in 1 Peter 3:7 (AMP), which says In the same way you married men should live considerately with [your wives], with an intelligent recognition [of the marriage relation], honoring the woman as [physically] the weaker, but [realizing that you] are joint heirs of the grace (God’s unmerited favor) of life, in order that your prayers may not be hindered and cut off. [Otherwise you cannot pray effectively.] Obviously adultery and divorce does not add up to living considerately with our spouses! And Jesus reaffirmed God’s view of adultery and divorce in Luke 16:18, where He said “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery. And Matthew 19:8-9 says Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.” And the question of how God sees divorce and remarriage just doesn’t get much clearer than what Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which says To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. That’s the passage that first spoke to me about marriage restoration, and I knew then that I’d never marry again unless reconciled to my husband. I was especially struck by how extraordinary it was that Paul made a point of saying that this was a command from God and not just his opinion, which was obviously intended to stress its significance; which should also make it more difficult to arbitrarily dismiss or rationalize away as many Christians (including many Christian leaders) do today.

So once we’ve settled and understand the question and issue of God’s will concerning marriage, adultery, and divorce, it’s important to take the next step, which is understanding that it is god who will do whatever it takes to bring about the restoration of covenant marriages, and that there’s nothing we can do to impact our spouses’ circumstances or change their hearts. But that IS something God, and God alone, CAN and WILL do, if we’ll just stand in faith and obedience on the power and promise of His Word and make a commitment to honor our marriage vows until the day we die. And Hosea 2 provides an excellent portrait of exactly how God does that, which we’ve seen played out over and over again in our midst, and which continues to be played out in the lives of many of our members’ spouses even today. And we have God’s assurance that He CAN and WILL do EXACTLY what His Word says He will do in Isaiah 46:11, which says From the east I summon a bird of prey; from a far-off land, a man to fulfill my purpose. What I have said, that will I bring about; what I have planned, that will I do. Unfortunately, I couldn’t count all the times I’ve heard men and women say But…my wife this or my husband that..”, actually trying to explain why God isn’t going to do EXACTLY what God said He would do! BUT God’s Word says otherwise in one of my favorite verses, which is Proverbs 21:30, because it says There is no wisdom, no insight, no plan that can succeed against the LORD. And Proverbs 19:21 even says Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but it is the LORD’s purpose that prevails. And Proverbs 20:24 goes even further to say A man’s steps are directed by the LORD. How then can anyone understand his own way? Then another one of my favorites is Proverbs 16:1, which says To man belong the plans of the heart, but from the LORD comes the reply of the tongue. And we have God’s very explicit assurance that what He says goes; because Isaiah 55:10-11 says As the rain and the snow come down from heaven, and do not return to it without watering the earth and making it bud and flourish, so that it yields seed for the sower and bread for the eater, so is my word that goes out from my mouth: It will not return to me empty, but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it.

Since what makes us Christians in the first place, is based entirely on god’s Word, we must choose to base our stand and faith for the restoration of our marriages entirely on His Word as well. We can’t rely on what the world thinks or listen to what our spouses say, or even be swayed by what they do or don’t do. Our ONLY hope is in the power and infallibility of God’s Word. So our ability to BELIEVE that God CAN and WILL restore our marriages is directly in proportion to the faith and confidence we place in the truth and power of His Word, and His faithfulness and ability to bring it all to pass. So if we read the above passages of scripture and still struggle with our faith in God to restore covenant marriages, we need to examine our understanding of the Word of God and the value we give that in our life and in the determination of our faith and confidence as Christians. Because if we can rely on it to believe that Jesus died for our sins and rose again three days later, it shouldn’t be so difficult to believe that God can resurrect what appear to be dead marriages in the exact same way!

Now, here’s Dan’s Heart To Heart post from last week. So be blessed and encouraged!

God Will Provide Spiritual Relationship If We Want It – by Dan Spitz

A couple of my daily devotions this week dealt with God’s covenant with us, spiritual relationships and doubting God. And I’ve had some thoughts about that, which I’d like to share.

First of all, God’s covenant with us is not a contract that is conditional on our love for Him; it is a promise that He holds in His heart. Though others may forget their promises to us, and though we may at times forget the promises we have made, God’s promises will always be fulfilled. God promises to love us and provide for us, even when we have lost hope. And He also promises us healed marriages.

2 Samuel 7:21 (NLT)
Because of your promise and according to your will, you have done all these great things and have made them known to your servant.

Our relationship with God is dependant on God’s unconditional love; not on the strength of our faith. We all have times when pain and hurt overwhelm us, or when we have a lapse in our spiritual relationship an walk with the Lord and it is difficult to feel His presence. When that happens, we need to be honest with God, admit our weaknesses and pray that He will strengthen our faith and give us back our hope. We can help this process by reading the Word, and seeking knowledge and understanding from God’s book of instructions. In Marsha Burns’ Small Straws today, she shares the following:

“July 13, 2007: If you are willing to receive it, I will reveal aspects of your life that keep you from being your spiritual best. All I need is your permission and cooperation to move you forward in truth and revelation. Now is the time to bring all things into the light because the devil can only work in the dark shadows of hiding and deception. Discover the freedom that comes from being open and honest in all things. Be assured that nothing you think or do is hidden from Me, says the Lord, but that there is nothing that can separate you from My love.
1 Corinthians 10:23 All things are lawful for me, but not all things are helpful; all things are lawful for me, but not all things edify.”

Mark 9:24 (NLT)
The father instantly cried out, “I do believe, but help me overcome my unbelief!”

When our hope fades and our faith weakens, our hearts become frail, so we must stay focused on our God, who loves us unconditionally; our God who has made a covenant with us to provide what He promises; our God who will never leave us to ourselves.

As we increase our faith, our hope, and our spiritual relationship with God, let us not become Doubting Thomases; let us have patience to endure and persevere as we wait upon the Lord for His divine plan, which includes His promises to restore our marriages. Unfortunately, the account of doubting Thomas is a reminder of our own failure to have full confidence in the power of God. How many times must God show us His awesome power before we believe? “Blessed are those who have not seen and yet have come to believe.” (John 20:29) Let us have the courage to be among those who have not seen and yet who believe. Let us look around and know that God is no respecter of persons; what He has done for others, He will do for all of us. And when we trust God completely, our faith, hope, and spiritual relationship with Him will bring about the peace and joy that only He can provide. Blessings!

John 20:25 (NLT)
They told him, “We have seen the Lord!” But he replied, “I won’t believe it unless I see the nail wounds in his hands, put my fingers into them, and place my hand into the wound in his side.”

Standing for God’s Glory!

Friday, July 13th, 2007

There’s no way to overstate how important it is for us to realize that we’re standing for the restoration of our marriages in obedience to God’s call on our lives and for His glory. Yes, there are other obvious natural reasons and personal motivations, but if obedience to God is not at the core of what we are doing, we will not have the grace, anointing and strength needed to endure to God’s victorious end, which is the full and complete restoration of our marriages and families!

So we have to understand that EVERYTHING God does is ALWAYS motivated by the praise, honor and glory of His beloved Son, Jesus Christ, just as Ephesians 1 makes very clear, and that God will fully equip us to do what He calls us to do. And when we get that, we will understand why self-pity, self focus, self absorption, self edification, mumbling, grumbling and complaining and all the other things we do that magnify and glorify the works and power of the devil over the power and promise of God’s Word and the glory of our Lord, literally stop the flow of God’s divine supernatural power from working in our lives. When we so desperately need the power of God to work on our behalf, as we most certainly do when standing against the gates of hell and the rest of the world for the salvation and restoration of our marriages and families, we had better realize that the only way to assure that is to praise, honor and glorify the name and works of the Lord in ALL we say and do! Because the more we do to glorify Jesus Christ, the more God will bless us and give us to use for His glory (just read The Parable of the Talents, and what great glory Jesus gets when our marriages and families are restored right before the very eyes of a doubting world! And there’s no greater evidence and proof of that than the following praise report and testimony, which was posted yesterday on the ladies’ private website by one of the FAM Fellowship members! For obvious reasons, names are omitted (SNO – spouse’s name; NO – member’s name), but there’s no way to see what God has done in this family after six years of standing for marriage restoration, without being very blessed and encouraged!

“Sorry guys, I am late posting some praise, but work has me going long and hard of late. I’ve missed everyone terribly and I feel so behind on all the good news!

When I was standing, I tried hard not to get too detailed in wondering just what my marriage would be like restored. From the beginning, my marriage had issues, because I had issues and even though my husband loved me very much, I wasn’t equipped to receive it or give it back. But I can truly say that my marriage is better right now than it ever was before. It is just as the Word says, “He will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten.” And God has restored much more than I ever could have imagined.

Now there is no lack of hugs and kisses in my house and I hear “I love you” every day. Look forward to it, ladies and gents, because it’s coming for you too. I used to write poems to my husband and send little emails but he never replied. But the other day he sent me an email with the words “I love you. Yours, (SNO)” and it included a drawing of a bouquet of flowers that our daughter had drawn on the computer when she was 3 years old. My husband also washed the dishes after dinner the other night and told me to sit down and rest. If I fall asleep reading in bed, I wake up when he comes in to tuck me in and kiss me good night and I get tucked in every night without fail. Now some people might think we’re just in some lovey-dovey stage that will pass, but I can tell you that it won’t pass. It won’t pass, because of the work that God has done in me all these years of standing, and when my husband expresses his love, I have my own to give him right back. God is systematically removing the fear, the insecurity, and the anger…all of it.

When I met my husband, I felt so unworthy of him; I was scared he was going to leave, and all of that is gone now; perished in that refining fire. Intimacy was a big issue in the beginning of my marriage; now it is as fulfilling and deeply intimate as I could ever wish it to be.

Also, (SNO) now has expressed a desire to tithe and we are both in agreement on wanting to bring all aspects of our lives under God’s divine order. And since he has not been to church, I asked him where he felt the money should go. He thought about 2 seconds and then said that until he got back to church, he wanted his tithe to go to this ministry. How awesome is that?

Also, my husband is becoming much more involved in our daughter’s life. Back in the dark days, he was either asleep or glued to the computer in an effort to protect himself from his hurt. But now, he is there to tuck her in every night, they play together and I can see the positive change in her, because of the sense of peace and security she has watching mommy and daddy taking care of each other and her. The other day she said she wanted a little brother and I told her that daddy and I had discussed it, but had decided to wait on having more children for a while. When I asked her if she knew the reason, she was correct when she said, “It’s because daddy wants to have more time with me, isn’t it?”

So many in this fellowship are getting closer and closer to their restorations. I know because I can recognize the signs in my own journey. When our spouses express their pain, it’s because they’re acknowledging our power in their lives to make it right. When they spend time with us and our kids, it’s because they WANT to. When they smack us on the butt or flirt, it’s because they also desire that connection to be re-established. There are so many more praises, but I have to pick up my little one. But I hope everyone is encouraged, because through my marriage restoration, especially considering my past, God is showing us all just how complete and long-lasting His handiwork is.

I love you all! …”

And further confirming the fact that we have to stand for marriage restoration for God’s glory is the following post from Dan, which he posted on the men’s private site yesterday as well! Thanks for sharing another great Bible study with us, Dan! What a great source of blessing and encouragement you are to all of us!

Haggai Reminds Us- We Obey, God Provides

As I was reading through Haggai this morning, I was reminded once again that God must be our number one priority in standing for marriage. We certainly may have other human motives for our stand, but God’s will must be why we stand. And we know that it is indeed God’s will for us to obey Him by honoring the covenant of our marriages.

Unfortunately, at some point in most of our marriages, one or the other, or perhaps both spouses shifted from putting God first to putting our own needs and interests first. And in Haggai, we are reminded that blessings lie ahead for those who put God first. Haggai 1:1-11 tells us that the people put aside doing God’s work in order to concentrate on meeting their own needs. He pointed out to them that setting God aside had not only kept them from moving ahead, but that conditions and circumstances had worsened. They had abandoned the one thing essential for success; the one who was in control; the one that could make them prosper - God.

Haggai 1:12-14 says “the Lord stirred up the spirit.” We know all the reasons we should trust the Lord, good and practical reasons, but many times we only respond when we allow God to stir up the spirit within us. As we pray for knowledge and understanding of God’s Word for us and our spouses, let us also pray that He would open the heart of the one we love and stir up the spirit in him/her to respond with obedience to our mighty God.

As we continue, Haggai shows us that we must not compare our accomplishments or tasks with others’. We must not become discouraged and drop our hands in defeat when looking at others’ marriage restorations. God’s response to this attitude is to “be strong” and continue to work on what God has given us to do. The new temple was not nearly as splendid as Solomon’s but the temple was glorious because of the immense presence of God in whose honor it was built. As long as what we do is done for Christ, His presence will overflow the work with glory. Haggai 2:1-4

In Haggai 2:8 God simply reminded the people of Judah that they were only responsible to work and follow Him in obedience; and He was responsible to provide. God gives us the same instructions and promise. We don’t need to know from where our resources will come just that when we do the will of God, He will provide them.

As Haggai comes to an end, we see God telling the people that they were receiving blessings; not because of their holiness, but because of the grace of God. It wasn’t worshiping in the temple or earning good things, but being obedient and putting God first that brought them to where His blessings flowed, where God was eager to give His blessings out of His love and grace.

Life changes when we put Jesus Christ first in our lives. It is the knowledge that we are pleasing God and fulfilling ourselves in the love of God through obedience, that we find peace. May God stir the spirit in all of our lives and those of our spouses, as we trust and obey, putting Him first and waiting patiently for the healing of our marriages.

Haggai 1:1-11 (NLT)
1 On August 29[a] of the second year of King Darius’s reign, the Lord gave a message through the prophet Haggai to Zerubbabel son of Shealtiel, governor of Judah, and to Jeshua[b] son of Jehozadak, the high priest.
2 “This is what the Lord of Heaven’s Armies says: The people are saying, ‘The time has not yet come to rebuild the house of the Lord.’”
3 Then the Lord sent this message through the prophet Haggai:
4 “Why are you living in luxurious houses while my house lies in ruins?
5 This is what the Lord of Heaven’s Armies says: Look at what’s happening to you!
6 You have planted much but harvest little. You eat but are not satisfied. You drink but are still thirsty. You put on clothes but cannot keep warm. Your wages disappear as though you were putting them in pockets filled with holes!
7 “This is what the Lord of Heaven’s Armies says: Look at what’s happening to you!
8 Now go up into the hills, bring down timber, and rebuild my house. Then I will take pleasure in it and be honored, says the Lord.
9 You hoped for rich harvests, but they were poor. And when you brought your harvest home, I blew it away. Why? Because my house lies in ruins, says the Lord of Heaven’s Armies, while all of you are busy building your own fine houses. 10 It’s because of you that the heavens withhold the dew and the earth produces no crops.
11 I have called for a drought on your fields and hills—a drought to wither the grain and grapes and olive trees and all your other crops, a drought to starve you and your livestock and to ruin everything you have worked so hard to get.”

Haggai 1:12-14 (NLT)
12 Then Zerubbabel son of Shealtiel, and Jeshua son of Jehozadak, the high priest, and the whole remnant of God’s people began to obey the message from the Lord their God. When they heard the words of the prophet Haggai, whom the Lord their God had sent, the people feared the Lord.
13 Then Haggai, the Lord’s messenger, gave the people this message from the Lord: “I am with you, says the Lord!”
14 So the Lord sparked the enthusiasm of Zerubbabel son of Shealtiel, governor of Judah, and the enthusiasm of Jeshua son of Jehozadak, the high priest, and the enthusiasm of the whole remnant of God’s people. They began to work on the house of their God, the Lord of Heaven’s Armies,

Haggai 2:1-4 (NLT)
1 Then on October 17 of that same year,[a] the Lord sent another message through the prophet Haggai.
2 “Say this to Zerubbabel son of Shealtiel, governor of Judah, and to Jeshua[b] son of Jehozadak, the high priest, and to the remnant of God’s people there in the land:
3 ‘Does anyone remember this house—this Temple—in its former splendor? How, in comparison, does it look to you now? It must seem like nothing at all!
4 But now the Lord says: Be strong, Zerubbabel. Be strong, Jeshua son of Jehozadak, the high priest. Be strong, all you people still left in the land. And now get to work, for I am with you, says the Lord of Heaven’s Armies.

Haggai 2:10-19 (NLT)
Blessings Promised for Obedience
10 On December 18[a] of the second year of King Darius’s reign, the Lord sent this message to the prophet Haggai:
11 “This is what the Lord of Heaven’s Armies says. Ask the priests this question about the law:
12 ‘If one of you is carrying some meat from a holy sacrifice in his robes and his robe happens to brush against some bread or stew, wine or olive oil, or any other kind of food, will it also become holy?’”
The priests replied, “No.”
13 Then Haggai asked, “If someone becomes ceremonially unclean by touching a dead person and then touches any of these foods, will the food be defiled?”
And the priests answered, “Yes.”
14 Then Haggai responded, “That is how it is with this people and this nation, says the Lord. Everything they do and everything they offer is defiled by their sin. 15 Look at what was happening to you before you began to lay the foundation of the Lord’s Temple.
16 When you hoped for a twenty-bushel crop, you harvested only ten. When you expected to draw fifty gallons from the winepress, you found only twenty.
17 I sent blight and mildew and hail to destroy everything you worked so hard to produce. Even so, you refused to return to me, says the Lord.
18 “Think about this eighteenth day of December, the day[b] when the foundation of the Lord’s Temple was laid. Think carefully.
19 I am giving you a promise now while the seed is still in the barn.[c] You have not yet harvested your grain, and your grapevines, fig trees, pomegranates, and olive trees have not yet produced their crops. But from this day onward I will bless you

Getting God’s Results, Which IS ALWAYS Marriage Restoration

Wednesday, July 11th, 2007

When we’re standing for the restoration of our marriages, there’s ONLY one certain way to get God’s results, and that’s to DO things God’s way. But when we don’t do things God’s way, and choose instead to rely on our own understanding and the ability and power of our own mind and flesh, and the way of the world, we will get the world’s results, which is divorce and the total and complete devastation and destruction of our marriages and families. And since none of us naturally know HOW to stand for our marriages, it’s very important to seek godly counsel and instruction, and to totally avoid any advice or counsel that is not grounded and verified in the Word of God. The Bible makes that very clear, and here are just a few verses demonstrating just how vitally important it really is:

Psalm 1:1-6
The Way of the Righteous and the End of the Ungodly
Blessed is the man Who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, Nor stands in the path of sinners, Nor sits in the seat of the scornful; But his delight is in the law of the LORD, And in His law he meditates day and night. He shall be like a tree Planted by the rivers of water, That brings forth its fruit in its season, Whose leaf also shall not wither; And whatever he does shall prosper.
The ungodly are not so, But are like the chaff which the wind drives away. Therefore the ungodly shall not stand in the judgment, Nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous.
For the LORD knows the way of the righteous, But the way of the ungodly shall perish.

Isaiah 28:29
All this also comes from the LORD Almighty, wonderful in counsel and magnificent in wisdom.

Isaiah 47:13-14
All the counsel you have received has only worn you out! Let your astrologers come forward, those stargazers who make predictions month by month, let them save you from what is coming upon you. Surely they are like stubble; the fire will burn them up. They cannot even save themselves from the power of the flame. Here are no coals to warm anyone; here is no fire to sit by.

Proverbs 14:12
There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death.

Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.

Luke 6:46-49
The Wise and Foolish Builders
“Why do you call me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ and do not do what I say? I will show you what he is like who comes to me and hears my words and puts them into practice. He is like a man building a house, who dug down deep and laid the foundation on rock. When a flood came, the torrent struck that house but could not shake it, because it was well built.
But the one who hears my words and does not put them into practice is like a man who built a house on the ground without a foundation. The moment the torrent struck that house, it collapsed and its destruction was complete.”

So when we’re serious about marriage restoration, we can’t afford to listen to and follow our own deceitful hearts, which Jeremiah 17:9 tells us are beyond cure, so we have to study and understand the Word of God instead and heed wise and sound biblical counsel; putting it into practice. So when we receive advice and counsel from others, we need to make certain that it is in full accordance with the Word of God, because anything else will not lead us to the end result we seek. But we CAN and WILL get God’s results by DOING things HIS way! So we are truly blessed to have access to the counsel of men and women like Bob and Charlyne Steinkamp; and Bob’s Charlyne Cares message from yesterday, which follows, certainly is powerful evidence of that.! And so are the following messages one of the FAM fellowship members brought to our attention from Focus on the Family, which were on their radio broadcasts this past Monday and Tuesday, as follow, and which I encourage everyone to listen to for encouragement and more godly counsel:
Letting God Mend Your Marriage - Part 1
Letting God Mend Your Marriage - Part 2

When we rely on the power and promise of God’s Word, He will “mend” our hearts and marriages, and we will truly be blessed and encouraged as we witness the full and complete restoration of our marriages and families, which is ALWAYS God’s result!

Now here’s Bob’s Charlyne Cares message from yesterday, which I strongly suggest copying and keeping on hand for frequent reference, because it is packed with godly counsel that will help get God’s results – the restoration of our marriages!!

“Today Bob Steinkamp shares his thoughts on the basics of marriage
restoration God’s way, twenty years and two days after his remarriage
to Charlyne following their divorce. If you are seeking a prodigal
perspective, combined with wise counsel on restoration, this is it.

FIRM FACTS ABOUT MARRIAGE RESTORATION

“Who is wise? He will realize these things. Who is discerning? He will understand them. The ways of the LORD are right; the righteous walk in them, but the rebellious stumble in them.” Hosea 14:9

Have you ever wished that you could learn, in only a few minutes, all about standing for the healing of your marriage God’s way? The best I can do is to share with you some of the firm facts about standing.

Not all these are what you might want to hear, but they are every one what you need to know, if you are serious about marriage restoration:

“My people are destroyed from lack of knowledge…” Hosea 4:6

1. Do not expect people to understand or to support your stand for marriage restoration. God has given to you, not to others, the assignment and the burden to stand with Him and to pray for your spouse. Because of this, you must always look to God, and not to people for your support.

2. The day that you promise God that you will stand for your marriage, you become like a lightening rod for attacks from the Enemy. Expect to be tempted in ways you never imagined. Anticipate the circumstances to become worse. Know that you and your family are now a threat to the work of Satan and the evil one, and his demons will attempt in every way to get you to give up. If you are a lightening rod for satanic attacks, Jesus Christ is your Ground. He alone can protect you from every harm.

“If you forgive anyone, I also forgive him. And what I have forgiven-if there was anything to forgive-I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake, in order that Satan might not outwit us. For we are not unaware of his schemes.” 2 Corinthians 2:10-12

3. Always remember that this is a spiritual battle, and spiritual battles are won with spiritual weapons. Your following someone’s secular program in hopes of marriage restoration is like going into war in Iraq armed only with a toy water pistol.

4. Your beloved mate has been taken captive by Satan to do his evil will. The words and actions that hurt you today are those of the Enemy, and not your spouses’s. Remember, Satan is the father of all lies, so do not expect to hear the truth from your prodigal spouse.

5. One way or another, your prodigal will witness or hear about your changed lifestyle when you start looking to Him alone to heal and to restore your marriage and family. Your prodigal, with their life in a tailspin, will be strangely attracted to the peace that you have, in spite of the circumstances. Claim that peace by a consistent, close, loving relationship with Jesus Christ. The peace that attracts prodigals comes from God alone, and not from any self-help or secular program designed to get your spouse back in the door.

6. Always remember, this is not about coaxing or manipulating your prodigal spouse back home so that you will be happy. It is a life or death battle for the eternal destiny of your prodigal’s soul. The end result will be life eternal, in Heaven, or a life in Hell, depending on what your beloved does with Jesus.

7. Your stand is about much more than you and your spouse. It is also about your family, your circle of influence, your future generations, and even people you may not even know who are silently following your example.

8. In most instances, your prodigal spouse is better off living in their home than outside. We understand there are safety and health considerations, but forcing them to leave the family home is often turning them out to Satan’s playground. As long as they are in the home, you can better detect your mate’s spiritual needs and thus pray for them.

9. Expect every area of your mate’s life to change as they silently seek relief from the torment the Enemy is bringing their way. Do not be wiped out by job changes, moves to distant places, new hobbies and attractions, or even an often-forced attempt to legalize their adultery by entering a non-covenant marriage to another person. If you are standing strong, God still considers you to be married.

10. Regardless of why your spouse left home, and in spite of what they are saying, most prodigals become involved with another person during their far country experience. Do not be devastated if that happens.

11. No matter what professional-sounding tag has been attached to your wayward spouse, the bottom line is that every husband or wife who has ever walked out on a marriage have all done so because of sin. Your beloved might have a sex, substance or selfishness problem. They might have been diagnosed, often by a professional who has never met them, with a chemical imbalance, bi-polar disorder, or mid-life issues. Regardless, they still have a sin problem. Marriages are healed when spouses stop making excuses with man’s terms and start dealing with their mate’s sin problem in the prayer closet. (Does it strike you as odd that someone can diagnose your spouse without ever meeting them?)

12. No other human can tell you the exact day your prodigal will repent and come home. We know of too many good standers who have been almost destroyed when someone traveling through town prophesies an exact date for restoration, and that date comes and goes without anything happening. The date is God’s business and not man’s. As a stander, you need to live every day as though today was your day of restoration.

13. Allow God to be God in bringing your prodigal home to Himself, and home to you. Be careful not to set stipulations for your prodigal’s return without seeking God for His will. Be wary of any individuals who want to help you set rules for a prodigal’s return.

14. Standing is not reciting a prayer, nor is it attending meetings, or talking the talk of a stander. It must become a way of life for you. That way of life is living like Jesus did. There must be no place for sin, in any form, in your life. If you call yourself a stander, you must want to see how far from the line called sin you can live, and not experimenting with what God will allow you to get away with. The sinful things of this world must be constantly dropping from your life, as they are replaced by the things of God. For example, developing a desire for Christian music; music that will give you answers, and help, and support instead of music from the world. Standing is not learned, nor is it mastered all at once. It is learned one step (or one mistake) at a time. God allows for mistakes in standing as you learn. I cannot tell you how many times each month a person who is serious about standing tells us how they have “really blown it” with their Lord God, or with their mate. No, you have not. God allows mistakes, and He forgives them when we repent. The only way you can “really blow it” is by giving up on God and on your prodigal spouse. Even then, God allows fresh starts. Somehow, he covers over all your mistakes, when we sincerely repent, like the tide washing across the beach. Every sign of imperfection is washed away.

16. If standing becomes “too hard” and you “can’t do it any more,” (whatever that means) and you give up standing, nothing is going to be any different about your life tomorrow. Your prodigal spouse will be the same, as will your circumstances. The only difference is that you have given up your hope and, in effect have bought into, “Some things are impossible for even God,” a statement that simply is not true. If you limit God in marriage restoration, you are also going limiting Him every time you need Him in the future. Nothing is impossible with God.

17. Another hard fact of standing is that you should stay away from, and not accept advice from people named “They.” We often hear how “They feel God has someone better for me,” or “They said I should get on with my life.” When “They say my marriage is hopeless,” we want to reply. It’s not about what “They” say, but about what God
says. You cannot be listening to “They”" and God at the same time.

“The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge; the ears of the wise seek it out.” Proverbs 18:15

18. You might have heard me say previously that if there had been an Internet and email 20 years ago, when we were divorced and Charlyne was standing with God and praying for me, I am not certain that I would be here today. If I, as a prodigal spouse, had read some of the things about me that even good standers post all over the Internet today, I would have run the opposite direction. It is almost as if today’s standers think they are having a private conversation with a friend, when they diagnose and disclose the mates faults and weaknesses online. There is Internet access in the pigpens of life also, and prodigals read the message boards and chat rooms-and additional damage is done to already troubled marriages. If every stander could give God half as much time as they are giving their computer for a six month period, we would see marriages restored in droves. Since some standers are addicted to the chat rooms and other online activities, I suspect that will never happen. Instead, they’ll keep limping along, typing, “You won’t believe what he/she did now,” and the soliciting advice, not from God, but from online friends, many whom they have never seen face to face, and some of whom are not even who they claim to be. Our standers will keep typing out prayers online, and calling it devotional time, instead of getting on their face before Almighty God, and crying out to Him. Before you say, “Nothing’s happening in my stand,” Charlyne and I would ask, “What’s happening in your prayer closet?”

19. It is a hard fact that God is on your side. His Word has direction for every situation you will ever face. People may declare, based on human reasoning that, “It’s over,” but God never does.

20. Do not allow other hurting people to help “fix” your problems. If they can’t fix their own problems, why allow them to have input to yours? That is God’s job, and not one for other humans.

21. The prodigal journey home is filled with false starts. Please be prepared for these. Standers are being wiped out by, “He/She came home yesterday and left again today.” This is all part of the prodigal process. You must be aware of, and praying against, the
spiritual battle that is raging for your beloved. (As an aside, let me say that most prodigals who are on the way home are doing the very best they can, in light of their absence of spiritual weapons for this spiritual battle. That is why your prayers are so important.)

22. Prodigals do come home. We come home, not to people who are dabbling in standing, but we come home to spouses who are serious about their relationship with Jesus Christ, and serious about praying their spouse away from Hell. We come home to standers who are not blown away by the unexpected. We come home to praying spouses who have not set deadlines for God, nor for us. We come home to standing and waiting spouses who strive to cover our sinful nakedness in front of others, not sharing everything they know or suspect. We prodigals come home to spouses who are walking with God 100% of the way. May you start today to be the kind of godly stander that prodigals come home to (often suddenly).

Today you have been given a 22 point foundation, upon which you can build the bridge between the “far country” and home, (both earthly and Heavenly) for your prodigal spouse. I encourage you to make use of our online audio in “God Heals Hurting Marriages” daily five minute vitamins for standers, and also “Fight For Your Marriage,” a weekly Bible study for standers. Both of these, and scores of other helps are available to you at no charge, and immediately, from the Rejoice Marriage Ministries web site, at the address given below.

“And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ-to the glory and praise of God.” Philippians 1:9-11

Blessings,
Bob (and Charlyne) Steinkamp
Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc.®
Post Office Box 10548
Pompano Beach, FL 33061 USA
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Restoration IS God’s Will and He DOES Answer our Prayers! – by Dan

Monday, July 9th, 2007

Eighteen months ago my wife told me she wanted a divorce. I was truly devastated and did all the things that any divorce book or group would tell you not to do. I tried to shame her and became self-righteous, manipulated her, begged, pleaded and anything else that I could think of to “win” her back. But nothing worked; in fact, all those things just made the situation worse and more hopeless. I was a “good” Christian, so wondered why God was letting this happen to me. I was crushed and hurt; beyond repair, or so I thought. Most of you know my story, so I won’t go into that, because the purpose of this post is to assure new members and standers that we have all risen from the same pain that you are experiencing right now. We are not where we are, without huge spiritual and personal growth through trusting and believing in Jesus Christ. We were not “magically” lifted to a place of peace and joy. Many of us have days when our feelings of despair are just as intense as ever, but by the grace of God, they don’t last as long and we know where to turn to take those negative thoughts captive.

Yesterday was one of those desperation days for me. I was having a melt down and cried (and I mean cried) out to the Lord; I was having what Linda would refer to as a pity party. I hate doing that; I know it is not productive, but needless to say, that is where I was. Of course, nothing is for naught. I sought out a friend, which I rarely do in the state of mind I was in, but sometimes we need to, who was a little surprised by my depressed state since he usually witnesses my enthusiasm as I encourage others who are standing for their marriages. It really is my nature to be positive and keep my negative feelings hidden. Who wants to be around a complaining, whining, and pitiful person. I usually find it easier to protect myself if I keep things to myself.

Anyway, through our conversation, it surfaced that it was beneficial for him to know that I was not born ready to be obedient to God in praying and standing for my marriage. It has been very difficult for me and everyone else, but by the grace of God, we are here today, some marriages are restored; and others not…YET! So, know that it is a process of growing in the spirit - listening, learning, seeking and being obedient to God’s will.

All this made me ponder just why I stand and why I expect God to do anything about it. Because I truly do believe God wants me standing for my marriage. It all comes from the scripture, the Bible, the written instructions from God about how to live our lives. It is through His Word that we know God’s will is that our covenant marriages not be destroyed. It is in the Word that we are assured that God hears our prayers and will answer them.

It is with that in mind, that I have included the following scriptures, which support what we are doing and why we are doing it. I pray that God’s Word will ignite our spirits, and give us faith, belief and trust that God wants our marriages to be healed and restored. We are standing on the promises of God; not a passing whim or just a love for our spouses, but because God commands us. May we stand strong, lean totally on our awesome God and know that we know that God is going to heal and restore our marriages. The first group tells us the He supports (commands) our stand, and the second group tells us that He will hear and answer our prayers. Be blessed.

SCRIPTURES THAT SUPPORT OUR STAND FOR MARRIAGE
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.

Romans 7:1-3 (NIV)
Do you not know, brothers—for I am speaking to men who know the law—that the law has authority over a man only as long as he lives? For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage. So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress, even though she marries another man.

Malachi 2:13-17 (NIB)
Another thing you do: You flood the LORD’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer pays attention to your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, “Why?” It is because the LORD is acting as the witness between you and the wife of your youth, because you have broken faith with her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. Has not the LORD made them one? In flesh and spirit they are his. And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring. [a] So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth. “I hate divorce,” says the LORD God of Israel, “and I hate a man’s covering himself [b] with violence as well as with his garment,” says the LORD Almighty.
So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith.
You have wearied the LORD with your words.” How have we wearied him?” you ask.
By saying, “All who do evil are good in the eyes of the LORD, and he is pleased with them” or “Where is the God of justice?”

Matthew 5:31-33 (NIV)
“It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’[a] But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery. “Again, you have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘Do not break your oath, but keep the oaths you have made to the Lord.’

Matthew 19:2-6 (NIV)
Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there.
Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?”
“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’[a] and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’[
b
]? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”

Matthew 19:7-10 (NIV)
“Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?”
Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.”
The disciples said to him, “If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry.”

Mark 10:1-12 (NIV)
Jesus then left that place and went into the region of Judea and across the Jordan. Again crowds of people came to him, and as was his custom, he taught them.
Some Pharisees came and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?”
“What did Moses command you?” he replied.
They said, “Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away.”
“It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law,” Jesus replied. “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’[a] ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,[b] and the two will become one flesh.’[c] So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”
When they were in the house again, the disciples asked Jesus about this. He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.”

Luke 16:17-19 (NIV)
It is easier for heaven and earth to disappear than for the least stroke of a pen to drop out of the Law.
“Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

1 Corinthians 7:10-16 (NIV)
To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

1 Corinthians 13:1-13 (NLT)
If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it;[a] but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages[b] and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever! Now our knowledge is partial and incomplete, and even the gift of prophecy reveals only part of the whole picture! But when full understanding comes, these partial things will become useless.
When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things. Now we see things imperfectly as in a cloudy mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity.[c] All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely.
Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.

GOD WILL ANSWER OUR PRAYERS BECAUSE RESTORATION OF OUR MARRIAGE IS HIS WILL.

Philippians 4:6 (NLT)
Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.

Jeremiah 33:3 (NLT)
Ask me and I will tell you remarkable secrets you do not know about things to come.

1 John 5:14-15 (NLT)
And we are confident that he hears us whenever we ask for anything that pleases him. And since we know he hears us when we make our requests, we also know that he will give us what we ask for.

Mark 11:24 (NLT)
I tell you, you can pray for anything, and if you believe that you’ve received it, it will be yours.

Matthew 21:22 (NLT)
You can pray for anything, and if you have faith, you will receive it.”

Matthew 18:19 (NLT)
“I also tell you this: If two of you agree here on earth concerning anything you ask, my Father in heaven will do it for you.

Psalm 37:3-4 (NLT)
Trust in the Lord and do good. Then you will live safely in the land and prosper. Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you your heart’s desires.

Numbers 23:19 (NLT)
God is not a man, so he does not lie. He is not human, so he does not change his Mind. Has he ever spoken and failed to act? Has he ever promised and not carried it through?

Tearing Down and Avoiding Strongholds in our own Hearts, Minds and Spirits

Friday, July 6th, 2007

More than likely everyone standing for marriage restoration is already familiar with the biblical instruction to take every thought captive, but the Lord has recently shown me that we don’t fully understand the power and significance of 2 Corinthians 10:4-6 (AMP), which says For the weapons of our warfare are not physical [weapons of flesh and blood], but they are mighty before God for the overthrow and destruction of strongholds, [Inasmuch as we] refute arguments and theories and reasonings and every proud and lofty thing that sets itself up against the [true] knowledge of God; and we lead every thought and purpose away captive into the obedience of Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One), Being in readiness to punish every [insubordinate for his] disobedience, when your own submission and obedience [as a church] are fully secured and complete.

We tend to think of the instructions in this passage of scripture as a means by which we can overcome doubt, confusion, discouragement, bitterness, resentment, unforgiveness and a long list of other things that Satan brings against us to steal, kill and destroy our righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit. But in reality, it also provides instruction to PREVENT strongholds from being established in our own hearts, minds and spirits in the first place. So not only can we overcome existing strongholds of arguments and theories and reasonings and every proud and lofty thing that sets itself up against the true knowledge of God, but by leading every thought and purpose away captive into the obedience of Christ, we avoid allowing those things to become strongholds for Satan to use against us over and over again later. But the significance of this verse that’s easily overlooked, is that if we DON’T do that, we ARE giving Satan reign in our hearts, minds and spirits, because the thoughts that we don’t take captive and make obedient to Jesus Christ and the power and promise of His Word, WILL inevitably become strongholds, and Satan will never miss an opportunity to use them against us as he works to destroy our marriages and families.

In the past month or so, we’ve had a lot of discussion about taking thoughts that are contrary to the restoration of our marriages and the will and Word of God captive by saying “It doesn’t matter.” But there’s more to it than that, because if that’s all we do, we may succeed in taking the thought captive, but that doesn’t necessarily make it obedient to Christ, and when we continue to do that, it becomes a stronghold in our hearts, minds and spirits, which is why Satan is able to repeatedly attack us with the same thoughts and issues over and over again.

So the practical solution is to find and memorize Bible verses that refute the particular thoughts we struggle with and when those thoughts come unbidden, as they always do, we will be prepared to take them captive and make them obedient to Christ by saying it doesn’t matter, because…, and then quote the applicable Bible verse or verses. And whenever possible, we need to do that out loud, because Romans 4:17 (AMP) says As it is written, I have made you the father of many nations. [He was appointed our father] in the sight of God in Whom he believed, Who gives life to the dead and speaks of the nonexistent things that [He has foretold and promised] as if they [already] existed. And by doing that, we can literally speak the non-existent things we want into being, according to our faith as described in Hebrews 11:1, which says Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. And Matthew 9:29-30 tells us our faith will be rewarded, because it says i>Then he touched their eyes and said, “According to your faith will it be done to you”; and their sight was restored… And what Jesus does for one, He will do for all!

Then in Matthew 4:1-11, Jesus Himself provides the most powerful example of what happens when we repeatedly SPEAK the Word of God back to the devil, as follows:
1 Then Jesus was led by the Spirit into the desert to be tempted by the devil.
2 After fasting forty days and forty nights, he was hungry.
3 The tempter came to him and said, “If you are the Son of God, tell these stones to become bread.”
4 Jesus answered, “It is written: ‘Man does not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.’”
5 Then the devil took him to the holy city and had him stand on the highest point of the temple.
6 “If you are the Son of God,” he said, “throw yourself down. For it is written: “‘He will command his angels concerning you, and they will lift you up in their hands, so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.’”
7 Jesus answered him, “It is also written: ‘Do not put the Lord your God to the test.’”
8 Again, the devil took him to a very high mountain and showed him all the kingdoms of the world and their splendor.
9 “All this I will give you,” he said, “if you will bow down and worship me.”
10 Jesus said to him, “Away from me, Satan! For it is written: ‘Worship the Lord your God, and serve him only.’”
11 Then the devil left him, and angels came and attended him.

There’s an awful lot to be learned in this passage of scripture, the first thing being that NONE of us are beyond temptation and the attack of the devil, and the more we strive for purity and holiness, the more likely the devil will be to attack us. After all, he had the nerve to “tempt” Jesus of all people, and right after He had completed a forty day fast! So we are all capable of the same kind of attacks, but there’s obviously no sin in being tempted; the sin comes when we fail to RESIST the devil and remain obedient to the Lord and His Word, which we do by taking every thought captive and making them obedient to Christ. And another important point is something one of the FAM Fellowship members and I were discussing last night; there’s almost always a bit of truth in the things the devil uses to tempt and deceive us. And that brings us to the last point I want to make; we MUST know the Word of God in order to speak it back to the devil for victory over our circumstances and to be aware when what the devil is speaking to us does NOT line up with EVERY life sustaining Word that comes from the mouth of God!

So to start with, we have to know the specific Word of God that leads us to stand for the restoration of our marriages in the first place, because if we’re standing on anything other than the Word of God, we’re on very shaky ground to say the least. If we can’t instantly quote the verse or verses of scripture on which we base our stand for marriage restoration and which we use to confirm and assure us that God wants us to stand for the restoration of our marriages, we are indeed in serious trouble, and easy prey for the devil. Don’t forget that 1 peter 5:8 warns us, Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. But Revelation 12:10-11 tells us that the devil will be defeated by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of our testimony. And there’s no more powerful word for our testimony than the power and promise of God’s Word, especially since Isaiah 55:10-11 and Isaiah 46:11 assure us that God will do whatever it takes to bring His will and Word to pass, and Proverbs 18:21 (AMP) tells us Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they who indulge in it shall eat the fruit of it [for death or life]. Well, there’s no way we could do any better than eating the fruit of God’s Word, so we need to get in the habit of speaking it out loud, especially when we need to take thoughts captive and make them obedient to Jesus Christ, who, according to John 1:1-5, IS the Word, and it is and was by HIS Word that EVERYTHING is and was made, and NOTHING was made without His Word! And when we experience the light of God’s Word, we will not remain in the darkness, or be under the bondage of strongholds that Satan intends to keep us from fulfilling the purpose for which God called us to stand for the restoration of our marriages, as revealed in 1 Peter 2:9, which says But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.

When we overcome and avoid these strongholds by taking our thoughts captive and making them obedient to the Word of God, we will experience the power and promise of the following verses, which make it abundantly clear why Satan wants so much to steal, kill and destroy our righteousness, peace and joy:

James 5:16
Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.

Psalm 37:17
for the power of the wicked will be broken, but the LORD upholds the righteous.

Philippians 4:7
And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Luke 2:14
“Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace to men on whom his favor rests.”

Haggai 2:9
‘The glory of this present house will be greater than the glory of the former house,’ says the LORD Almighty. ‘And in this place I will grant peace,’ declares the LORD Almighty.”

Psalm 51:12
Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.

Nehemiah 8:10
Nehemiah said, “Go and enjoy choice food and sweet drinks, and send some to those who have nothing prepared. This day is sacred to our Lord. Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength.”

Romans 14:16-18
Do not allow what you consider good to be spoken of as evil. For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking, but of righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit, because anyone who serves Christ in this way is pleasing to God and approved by men.

So, as it ALWAYS does, tearing down and avoiding strongholds in our own hearts, minds and spirits, comes town to standing on the power and promise of God’s Word, as we literally speak it out loud to refute ANYTHING that would exalt itself against or above the written Word of God. And when we learn to do that, we will indeed be blessed and encouraged, because the devil will have absolutely no power and authority in our lives and we’ll be able to effectively stand in the gap for the restoration of our marriages and for the reconciliation of our husbands and wives with the Lord!